first I would like to say that I am so happy to have found this forum. i am need somewhere to go to vent and get advice and i came across this site and so far it looks wonderful, now on to the drama. my husband and i have been together for about 11 years. he had a child with his ex, and soon after she took her daughter and disappeared. she did not want him in her or her daughter's life nothing, until child support. my husband fought for visitation and she would hold the child, not show for meetings, and contest. she sure made it a point to get her increases in child support though. for 1 years this went on fighting for visitation and paying child support with nothing. he asked for dna testing and was denied time and time again. now one day he was at a friends when the friends roomate asked for a ride to go see some hoe. john asked her name and guess who it was? well he got on the phone with her and she asked him to sign rights away and he agreed. I was there and signed the paper also and we thought it was done and over with. well low and behold a few months ago a phone call from out of nowhere it was her. she wants him to be a dad after 10 years every other weekend the whole spill like we never missed a beat. ok WTF? i felt like i was losing my mind here. turns out the paper that was signed was nothing just dropping support and giving her sole custody. well it turned into she wanted a daddy for her other kids, which all have different dads, she is married to a man that is 52 she is 29, and she feels my husband owes it to her to leave me and be with her and her daughter. if he doesn't talk to her on the phone for hours on end she gets mad. she calls my home and leaves nasty messages calls all hours of the night so i changed the number. the child doesn't want to come here unless she is getting something and treats our kids like crap. she bosses my daughter and had her so upset it was unreal.i understand that she is 12, but the thing is she has been with her mother for the last 12 years listening to all kinds of lies. i really tried and now it is to the point that it is just better not to bother. bm has called CYS on me 3 times already, filed for child support increases 4 times in 4 months, it is just a nightmare. i feel i will lose my mind. she checks herself into the nut ward 2 times a year to keep her ssi, goes to mental health 4 times a month i mean i am not dealing with a sain person here. when we were seeing her, bm wasn't happy unless my husband was talking to her all week about life, and then would throw a fit if he wouldn't stay up on the phone with her all night and say no visit then turn around the following weekend and say she is dropping her off cause she wants her daddy. ok first she is 12 and i am sorry but we have visited with her 4 times in 4 months. she never calls unless she wants to go shopping. i am just at the end of it all. thanks if you read this i just needed to let some of it out.