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would this be over stepping?

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Submitted by TickedOff on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 5:21pm

SD15 got three F's and all in important subjects Math ,English and Science. She was very nonchalant about it like pffffft. Its not ok she is going to be a mom soon she needs to learn responsiblity I feel like marching up the stairs and taking away her phone and computer. DH is working until morning and I'm not ok with her sitting up there posting pics and texting away while blowing off her school work. I pay for the phone and internet bills. Would this be over stepping?

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Submitted by Uncledog on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 5:31pm

Seeing as you pay the bills, but are concerned with DH's input, bear with it until you talk to him. If she's straight Fing up with the straight Fs in school, one more night isn't going to cause as many problems as a possible overstep. I agree about wanting to unplug her electronic teat though.

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Submitted by TickedOff on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 5:33pm

Uggggh I just can't stand knowing she is up there screwing around when her grades look like that. And she is an expecting mother she needs to get her act together or I'm not going to help her and she can go stay with her aunt.

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Submitted by Uncledog on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 5:37pm

It's fully understandable. It's a rough life that most of us lead. It sounds like you actually want to do it for her good. Be sure to mention that if you and DH talk about it. Even if you just cannot stand her, making it seem to be her best interest will be a better communication point.

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Submitted by TickedOff on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 5:42pm

Thanks Uncledog. Are you a therapist by any chance? your comments calm me down and help me think.

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Submitted by Uncledog on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 5:48pm

I been to a lot of therapists, if that counts!
I'm glad that you feel calmer, it's easier on you and the situation to approach it with a settled mind.

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Submitted by whatwasithinkin on Thu, 12/05/2013 - 10:25am

well the question is : are you engaged or disengaged.

if you have been disengaged you need to stay out of it.

if your engaged with sd has her father addressed the issues with the grades yet? because if he has and obviously doesnt give a shit...why should you be the bad guy?

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Submitted by TickedOff on Thu, 12/05/2013 - 12:25pm

He addressed this morning before school he had her hand over the phone and laptop. The laptop may be used for homework only and she will get her things back when she can pull up her grades. I encouraged him to talk with her about what help she needs to improve her grades. I talked to her in a very calm manner about being a role model to her baby and being the student she hopes her kid will be one day. She ways annoyed but we will see how this pans out. I'm not trying to be a bitch I actually do give a crap. I don't want her ending up like BM.