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Giving a speech thanking everyone but me. Nice real freaking nice

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Submitted by TickedOff on Tue, 01/28/2014 - 8:49am

I'm upset One SD turns 18 steals from us and runs for the hills that still hurts. But that's not what I'm upset about right now. SD16 got an award at school for academic achievement. We took her out to a family dinner. MIL asked her how she felt about getting the award.

“I worked really hard. I want to show I can be a good mom and good in school you know so I can inspire my friends and little sister. But dad I couldn't have done anything without you supporting me and loving me. You don't know how much it means to know you love me and support me even when I screw up. I love you grandma thank you for being here for me my whole life. I know if grandpa is looking down he is smiling. I wish my mom and sister where here to see me finally doing things right but I love them anyways and I couldn't be me without them".

Everyone was clapping at her academy award speech. I did the fake clap. That pissed me off and let me tell you why. It’s like why the f**K am I hear. I've been helping your dad raise you since you were 7 years old! Where was BM out lighting up and getting locked up? I was there when you were sick. When you came on your period I had the talk with you. I held your hand while you gave birth. I showed you how to change a damn diaper. But I guess you could have done everything without me huh. Yeah real nice. How hard could it have been to remember my presence and say thanks ticked thanks for being there for me?

That hurt my feelings. What the hell. I feel betrayed and stabbed in the heart. I sacrificed for these girls. I've been there through the ups and down. No matter how hard things got between us, no matter how bad it got me never turned my back on them. On mother’s day every year when they ran home from school asking DH to keep their homemade gifts for BM I never let it show that it hurt me. I gave a lot of myself for these girls. DD knows I love her. But it’s like I kept having to prove to these girls that I love them and for the longest they would not accept my love. I just want to be appreciated damn it. So yeah. All these years and I don't even get a thank you. Yeah your damn right it hurts and I'm emotional and I think I have a right to be.

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Submitted by Jsmom on Tue, 01/28/2014 - 9:29am

I would call her out on it...You will never feel better if you don't. She will be embarrassed, but as stepparents we need to stand up for ourselves. No one else will do it for us.

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Submitted by bi on Tue, 01/28/2014 - 9:29am

I'm sorry but I would done doing anything for her to be thankful for. my own daughter has done this to me. she made student of the month over the whole school last year and was in the paper. her person she admires the most is my grandma. another year in school she had to do a "hero" project and again chose my grandma. her and my grandma are obviously very close, and that's fine. but she does not recognize that I have raised her alone and worked my ass off to provide for her and have taught her a lot. I get credit for nothing. she is always talking up my grandma and while my grandma has always been good to her, she hasnt' raised her or done any of the work.

it's pretty damn hurtful that I get no recognition at all for having been a single parent and still giving her a good life, but my grandma gets all the credit just for existing.

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Submitted by Missmozzer on Tue, 01/28/2014 - 10:43am

Ouch! I would feel the same. Maybe one day she will realize what a great sm you have been to her. She still pretty young and kid or not probably really immature. I'm sorry, I know that must have cut you deeply. ):

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Submitted by simifan on Tue, 01/28/2014 - 3:19pm

I agree I would say something & let her know since what you do is not appreciated - you won't do it anymore. She learns nothing except she can walk all over you if you say nothing.