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thinkthrice's picture

Do any of you have this problem with your spouses/SOs?   Chef is extremely phone unsavvy and hates every phone/carrier we have ever had.    Then he will claim to like the phone he had 3 phones ago which I recall he hated back then as well.    Most of the issues are user error and settings.

 If he didn't need the Internet for his job I would be tempted to get him a flip phone!

 This is a guy who went from not being able to turn on a computer to a Microsoft certified technician in less than a year back in the day.  I have to admit he was excellent with hardware but not so much software.    He got out of Tech because he didn't like the way it was going... too many bells and whistles and went back to construction.

 Then he has requests of the phone that are completely unreasonable.  I put on do not disturb because he doesn't like the notification sounding all the time from various apps (weather etc...kinda important) and just wants to be notified of phone calls and texts which I made an exception for in the do not disturb setting.   I'm sure there will be some complaint about that as well when he doesn't get a notification that he wants from some other application.

 I am android/MS centric and refuse to get an iPhone for him.   Somehow I think he would have a problem with an iPhone as well.

 He just called me going nuts because he  Was prompted to log back into the office 365 account and wanted to know why that was.   He even has gone as far as comparing me to Mrs. Headlights back at my old job who was notorious for just handing out equipment without copying over files or applications!    That was the final straw...I said do not compare me to Mrs. Headlights ever

AAARRGGGHHH!!!

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AlmostGone834's picture

Not with DH... he's decently tech savvy. My father? Yes haha. He loves computers and phones but struggles to figure them out sometimes. (I had to show him how to use a scroll bar). He has been a blue collar worker all his life so needs assistance when it comes to figuring out such things. I don't mind though. He's my dad and I love him. If it was DH I would be annoyed. I guess that's what happens when you build up resentment (shrug). 

JRI's picture

My DH85, a very capable, successful manager his whole life, is completely tech ignorant.  DS has him set up with a cellphone but all he can barely do is make and answer calls.  He's sliding into dementia so this won't be getting better.  I try not to be annoyed with repeatedly helping him answer it.   On and on....

thinkthrice's picture

8 yrs younger than I am and well acquainted with tech.  But he has ZERO patience which is where the house of cards falls. 

Rags's picture

He is an Electrical Engineer. As are both of his boys.

He hates smart phones.  So, he bought a flip phone and was all happy with going back to it.

DW, mom, dad, and I did a road trip for my eldests cousin's daughter's wedding a half a dozen years ago. On taht road trip dad was basking in the warm glow of his flip phone ownership.  DW and mom were in the back talking while dad and I were in the front talking.  Their choice, we did not banish them to the back. Just to get that out of the way.

Dad made some comment about his flip phone. DW responded with a short comment about embracing progress and how a smart phone does everything his flip phone would do just quicker  and with far more camability.  My dad got a wierd look on his face, shook his head and dropped his chin to his chest and grumbled to my dw 'Thanks for crushing my flip phone bliss.'  He immediately went back to his smart phone and has not gone back.  He will occassionally comment about how he does not miss the numberic key pad texting on his flip phone though he does follow any positive he experiences via his smart phone with 'These things are too big. My flip phone is much easier to carry, fits in my pocket.......'

My mom gives dad crap asking him where his flip phone is when dad grumbles about smart phones.  He mumbles and drops in a 'Damnit (DIL).'  My wife and my parents are exceptionally close.  

And, I too am not all into the latest and greatest smart phone. I usually keep on for abotu 5yrs until it has been dropped enough that it starts having problems or can no longer be updated with the latest operating system.  Then I begrudgingly buy a new one.

With unlocked phones, they can be moved between carriers.  As for carriers, we have had dozens of different carriers all over the world. Generally, there isn't much to differentiate the carriers and they all pretty much offer the same phones.  If coverage in your area is skitchy, call and report it to your carrier.  They can adjust cell antenna gain, etc.. to address many coverage issues.  Sprint was the best at addressing coverage gaps in my in my experience, but they no longer exist. I believe they were absorbed by T-Mobile.

 

 

NotYourAverageStepMama's picture

He complains about his phone often and then says how mine is better, but we have exactly the same phone. I tell him it isn't the phone it is the user. He is 30, but just isn't tech savy. Typically he will complain about something and try to fix the issue for example our surround sound wasn't working and DH says it is "broken." I am like there is no way it is broken it isn't even a year old, let me see. Under 5 minutes I have it working again. The difference is if I don't know what the issue is, I google it and see what is suggested while DH will just frustratedly keep trying to make it work the same method over and over again.

Winterglow's picture

This would be me. I have a deep loathing of phones and how they interfere in my life and have no desire to get to know more than the absolute basics to get mine to function; OTOH, I am a highly computer literate whizzkid on my PC. I just happen to be more written word oriented than spoken word. That's my excuse and I'ùm sticking to it!

Mominit's picture

I hate software.  I repel technology.  My kids know if they really need me, call or text Dad. DH replaced my flip phone several years back and I was useless.  I'm better now.  I've had it for years, and now I can use it to text, I can surf the net on it, and I love having a camera.  But setting ring tones, or specific do not disturbs etc, forget it.  No idea how, and I really don't care to learn. And heaven forbid you update my software.  If he sees my phone lying around and notices it's in need of an update DH now asks before he goes ahead and pushes that update button.  If an update changes the way something looks on my phone I'm going to hate it until I'm very used to it, so he knows not to spring that on me.

And I know that this borders on arguements of religion and politics....but I cannot grasp the android system.  I've found that the IPhone is at least intuitive.  My MIL and FIL both have them and the three of us can use them fairly well.  But when FIL had an android it was hopeless.  It was used for phone calls only, none of us could figure out how to make it do anything.  I was so relieved when he moved to an IPhone.  MIL understands it pretty well, and if there's ever an issue at least we're all on the same system.

Rags's picture

So we could FaceTime seamlessly between the US (Parents), Middle East (Us), and Asia (Brother's family).  My eldest nephew was a diehard Android guy.  He finally went to I-Phone because he got tired of not being in on the regular FaceTime calls with the Rags clan global diaspora.

I have had Android phones as work phones several times over the years.   I have not had issue with them. My screen time is just higher on I-Phones so it becomes more intuitive via muscle memory.

My parents get frustrated with smart phones in general.  I have to repeatedly tell them that by hitting links, etc, etc, etc... they are not going to screw anything up and if they do, just go to the T-Mobile store and have a tech figure it out for them. Mostly mom does not close her apps and surf links so she ends up with dozens upon dozens of things open.

Unknw

We went T-Mobile because they had an aliance with Saudi Telecom and Q-Tel when we were living in the ME.  No cost calls, etc... with T-Mobile customers in the US.  So our personal phones are all T-Mobile (Mom, Dad, DW, me).  We had local phones as well. Just stick phones so we could call in country without issue.

Mominit's picture

I think Facetime is probably the straw that broke the Android fans in the family.  It's so nice and seamless between IPhones that even my Mom and I Facetime on occasion.  Over Covid it was nice to be able to see each other's faces.  And it's quite a thing at Christmas here as everyone gets together from wherever they are!