Its BM's week to have SD8. (History: during their 10 year marriage, BM didn't drive..fear and laziness. DH drove BM everywhere) . She's driving now and has gotten better since the separation with getting around on her own.

Its cold/snowy here with very icy roads. SD8's school bus didn't show this morning. BM calls DH to pick up SD8 and drive her to school. When he gets there to pick up SD8, BM asks him to drive her to work as well. He said no.

We talked,

It was difficult. I was honest. First, I told him all that was bothering me. He countered with my moodiness was affecting not only him, but his daughter. We agreed to end it.

So for the next hour or so, we wandered around the kitchen trying to figure out where to go from here. What we do with the house...etc. He laughed and said that I was so practical about the logistics of it ending. I admitted that I was devestated that I was losing my best friend.

The wedding is supposed to be October 4.

I can't do it.

We have erractic custody of SD7 and have her about 60% of what should be 50%. We have BM calling all the time. I have a BF who parents out of guilt. He indulges her every whim. If I disagree or try to "parent" her, he accuses me of treating her badly. On the whole, I try not to intervene...I just take it in and feel resentful that I have to live above reproach when she is with us.