Tasha,

I have to say that taking on someone else's children at 18 when the BM is only 21 is not in your best interests in my opinion.

Don't get me wrong. We are all Sparents here and have taken on other people's children. But, most of us had a life of our own before we took on that commitment.

In my case I married a single teen mom who had a kid when she was 16. I married her when she was 18. I was 30. The kid was 1. I had traveled the world, finished my BS, married, divorced started and sold a business, bought and sold a few houses and had a bit of a life before we met and married. We met while she was in college. We both were. I had gone back to school after my divorce and selling my business.

You very clearly mentioned what you have given up to raise your SO's and the BMs kids. What is in it for you? I suggest that other than a VERY SLIM chance that you will make a long and happy life with your SO and be able to raise the Skids without being loaded down with vitriolic crap of their BM that there is nothing in this for you.

I suggest that you go back to school. If he is truly your life's partner then your SO will support your school efforts and figure out how to care for his kids while you are in school.

My wife and I did it. She went to school in the evenings. I worked all day. She dropped the Skid off at a daycare on her way to class and I picked him up 30mins later on my way home from work. He and I did kid/dad stuff for a few hours then it was dinner, bath and grad school time.

I did my MBA on line and he studied in the room with me. He had his books and I had mine. I studied Management and he studied Hop On Pop.

Utimately my 18yo single teen mom bride finished her BS, her MBA and her CPA. She did not allow a bad decision she made at 16 to ruin her life. She took responsibility and made decisions that allowed her to better provide for her kid.

We have had an amazing life. We have traveled the world, raised a great kid, our son (my SS) is now 19 and has no kids or X's if you are interested. We now live internationally and are approaching our 18th anniversary.

Life goes fast. Do not give up yours for someone elses baggage.

If you SO will not support you in your education then say goodbye and go live your life. Find a guy with no baggage and start a family that you can grow and raise together.

Did I mention GET YOUR BUTT BACK IN SCHOOL!!!! It sounds to me as if your SO has not given up his life and BM sure has not given up hers to raise their children.

Why should you?

Good luck.

Welcome by the way. I hope you find this a good place to vent, contribute and pick up some useful perspective from others who are living the blended family dream.

Oh my! Sweetie...please, please, please...listen to your parents...and if not, listen to us. You should NOT be doing this at your age. I understand you love those kids, but believe everyone here when we tell you, those kids are the "responsiblity" of the lousy parents they have, NOT YOURS! You have absolutely NO RIGHTS to them. In 5 years, you get sick of it all and you will not have ANY rights to ever see them again. They can go crazy on you and you will have NO RIGHTS at all! You are giving up your life for kids for which you have no control. They might love you, but believe me, that's just now. In some years, things change. Ask anyone here and they will tell you the sacrifices they made for little kids (and they were much older than you when they started in this mess) and they will tell you how their hearts have been ripped apart numerous times by the same kids they sacrificed themselves for.

If you were my child, I would pay for a ticket to Europe or anywhere and introduce you to 100 guys your age going to school and make sure that you did NOT come back to the mess you are in.

Please, please, please run. I know you don't want to hear it, but please, do it. You will someday be thankful. You know that many times we do things growing up that our parents told us and we didn't want to do them at the beginning...years later you realized that they did it for your own good...this TOO is for your own good...the only difference is you are now out of their parental control, but their years of experience stand for something. You say your mother also sacrificed for your dad...if this is true, she is speaking not out of spite, not because she doesn't want to see you happy...she is doing it ONLY because she's been there and she knows that you DESERVE much better than this.

You will be in my thoughts...I hope that in a year or so, if not sooner, you come back here and tell us all that you left the craziness and are instead enjoying your most precious years!

A big hug to you...and please, don't take any of the posts here the wrong way. Most of us are much older and some just a bit older than you, and we do it because we truly care and don't want to see someone so young waste their best years on this nightmare.

Take your behind home. Your BF and BM are using you.

If you were my daughter, I'd give BF and his parents so much hell, they would be happy to get you away from them.

Oh holy shit girl.

My SD is now the age YOU were when you met this man. If you were mine, I would have locked your ass up, or even better, gotten HIS ass locked up at that point. In fact, SD16's 21-yr-old former boyfriend is now in jail waiting for trial; he's looking at 10 years hard labor, and his two kids won't know him. BM locked SD16's ass in a mental ward when she got hysterical after a fight about the man, and I say good for BM.

Get the hell out. You live reasonably near me. There are opportunities out there, but there's also the chance of getting sucked into poverty FOREVER. You're on the wrong track. Have a real life, not this farce you're living.