Always and forever....
So a lot has happened....BM texted DH at 6 am on Friday morning once again completely ignoring the fact that she has been told not to text or call before 9:00 am unless it's an emergency. She was texting DH to let him know that it's not his weekend. Apparently the skids told her that DH was picking up them at 6:00 pm.
DH told her to please look at the visitation calendar and that it was in fact his weekend since it's the first weekend of the month. Then she said that the skids are all stressed out when they come over here and they no longer want to come over.
LOL of course they are telling her this because I don't put up with their crap and they don't like our rules. DH told her that it doesn't matter because it's his visitation and that if she has a problem with it then she can take it up with a judge because he is sticking with the CO.
Then she comes back and says that they don't want to come over on Thursday nights and that DH better do what she says because she knows what is best of the skids. DH told her ok fine then they do not have to come over on Thursday nights when it's not his weekend.
I know that I should be jumping for joy but BM completely manipulated him just like she always does and when I told him that he said that he did it to make me happy. Of course it's always my fault because it sure can't be BM's and DH's. I told him not to give up his visitation just to make me happy and don't put the blame on me and that he is just in denial that BM manipulates him.
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He is giving her mixed
He is giving her mixed signals. That's exactly why she is still blowing up his phone in the early mornings. He should ignore her until 9 am. Only respond if it is necessary. He should have stopped at "I have the first weekend of the month, it is the first weekend of the month so I will be there at XX time to pick up my children." Then IGNORE THE WHORE. The second he gave in to her demands that the kids don't want/should have to come on Thursdays, he gave in to her. He gave her what she wanted therefore rewarding her earlier behavior of 1. calling early and 2. she can get what she wants if she wears him down enough. All of this is on him. You can be angry with BM for trying to wiggle out of the custody ordered visitation but your DH just gave her exactly that so you shouldn't be surprised. They are both just doing what they want going back and forth. Of course that causes disagreements. No one is being consistant and I dare say that is exactly why his kids responded to your discipline the way they did-because their parents are not consisitent with them and their parenting.
Haha! That is hilarious. He
Haha! That is hilarious. He won't discipline his kids or teach them respect, won't stand behind you on the sleeping on the couch thing, all of which would make you happy, but he is willing to give in to BM...to make you happy. What a bunch of bull.
In one breath, he is standing his ground, telling her he is sticking to the CO, the next minute, she is calling the shots. And it's all for you.
You lucky girl, you.
I know it is utter BS hereiam
I know it is utter BS hereiam. She manipulates him and he is in denial then he tries to say that it's all to keep the peace and make me happy. I am not that dumb!!
That does make a lot of sense
That does make a lot of sense. Thank you. So is there any way to help him get on the right track?
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" DH better do what she says because she knows what is best of the skids"
And then the chicken sh*t turns around and gives her her own way. *SMH*
Yeah, I suppose technically you should be doing the happy dance you will be getting two more nights a month without having to watch DH try and parent his kids with rules and expectations, but on the other hand, kind of hard to respect a man who just rolled over so easily.