I am awake. I am taking a break from a late night business proposal effort.
If you are looking for guidance on how to effectivly work with your XH and his SO you may find this a good place.
Be careful how you approach this community as far as venting about your kid's StepMom. Most on this site are dealing with difficult BioParents so you may not find this the most supportive place for frustrations associated with a StepParent.
However, many in this community will give you the benefit of their blended family experience and their best suggestions on how you can navigate the difficulties of blended family life with minimal drama.
I don’t know if this is going to be any comfort to you (or just fan the flames) but our stories are pretty similar, only in reverse.
My husband was just divorced from a wife and kids who were 500 miles away from his home town, he gave up his career when he married and became a stay at home dad to raise his boys. When his marriage crumbled he did the only think he could at the time, move back home to where his work and family support system was and build up enough money to move back to be near his kids again. Only he fell in love while he was home… I’m not the bitch that broke up the marriage, but I’m the new woman who was going to be living with daddy. And less than a year after he moved 500 miles away from them he was back living 15 minutes from them… yes, the new woman was there… but now there was a “team” built up to raise the kids. Mom, Dad… and Stepmum.
It’s a long story… but the thing I wanted to share with you was this. I’m sure your ex-husband doesn’t “want” to be so far away from his kids… but maybe circumstances require this time away. All you can do as a loving mum is help your kids any way you can to make sure they can keep up a relationship with their dad, no matter how hurt you are, or how vengeful you feel… and if he is a bad person than damn it, they’ll find out on their own when they’re old enough to come to that conclusion for themselves… but they’ll respect you in the long run for being the bigger person.
I’m so sorry your hurt… I’m so sorry that your kids are without their dad… I’m sorry for their dad that HE’S missing time with THEM! Divorce is never pretty… good luck finding your peace.
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I am awake. I am taking a
I am awake. I am taking a break from a late night business proposal effort.
If you are looking for guidance on how to effectivly work with your XH and his SO you may find this a good place.
Be careful how you approach this community as far as venting about your kid's StepMom. Most on this site are dealing with difficult BioParents so you may not find this the most supportive place for frustrations associated with a StepParent.
However, many in this community will give you the benefit of their blended family experience and their best suggestions on how you can navigate the difficulties of blended family life with minimal drama.
Good luck.
Best regards,
Maybe a single parents site
Maybe a single parents site might be more receptive? Divorcenet? I was a member of both before I remarried and probably will be rejoining soon...
Hey there… I don’t know if
Hey there…
I don’t know if this is going to be any comfort to you (or just fan the flames) but our stories are pretty similar, only in reverse.
My husband was just divorced from a wife and kids who were 500 miles away from his home town, he gave up his career when he married and became a stay at home dad to raise his boys. When his marriage crumbled he did the only think he could at the time, move back home to where his work and family support system was and build up enough money to move back to be near his kids again. Only he fell in love while he was home… I’m not the bitch that broke up the marriage, but I’m the new woman who was going to be living with daddy. And less than a year after he moved 500 miles away from them he was back living 15 minutes from them… yes, the new woman was there… but now there was a “team” built up to raise the kids. Mom, Dad… and Stepmum.
It’s a long story… but the thing I wanted to share with you was this. I’m sure your ex-husband doesn’t “want” to be so far away from his kids… but maybe circumstances require this time away. All you can do as a loving mum is help your kids any way you can to make sure they can keep up a relationship with their dad, no matter how hurt you are, or how vengeful you feel… and if he is a bad person than damn it, they’ll find out on their own when they’re old enough to come to that conclusion for themselves… but they’ll respect you in the long run for being the bigger person.
I’m so sorry your hurt… I’m so sorry that your kids are without their dad… I’m sorry for their dad that HE’S missing time with THEM! Divorce is never pretty… good luck finding your peace.
I am a SM but I am also a BM
I am a SM but I am also a BM and it's too bad that all BMs get a bad rap for the crazy ones that we have to deal with.
Not all BMs are crazy, but the posters on this site mostly have to deal with ones who are!