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Submitted by Tambam88 on Wed, 11/06/2013 - 1:08pm

TI am so glad i found this site. I have alot of mixed feelings and nobody to talk to about them. I just got married 5 months ago. I love my wife to death but i cant stand her kids. I swear they are the baddest kids ive ever met. I dread going home. I even volunteer to work extra shifts to avoid them. Just seeing their faces make me want to jump in my car a drive far away. I cant twll my wife these things cuz she would leave me. What do i do

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Wed, 11/06/2013 - 1:20pm

First, welcome to the site.

Now the questions:
How old are the kids?
How often are they with you?
How active is the biodad?
Does your wife work?
What are some examples of behavior?
How does your wife discipline?
What do you see as your role in the family?

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Submitted by msg1986 on Wed, 11/06/2013 - 2:37pm

I'd have to say I am with Echo on this one. If you hated the kids so much why marry this person? I get resentful sometimes that Dh has to deal w/ Bm HOWEVER it would be a totally different story if I absolutely hated Ss5.

Also, OP, we need more details. It's also different if for some reason OP got on with the kids and then suddenly they changed after OP and his wife got married...

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Wed, 11/06/2013 - 1:53pm

I just read and printed that out. One of the best, truthful (not sugar coated) articles I have seen. THanks for sharing

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Submitted by itsmylifetoo on Wed, 11/06/2013 - 3:50pm

Yay! I read this too yesterday and thought it was amazingly accurate! I think year 2 has been more challenging than one...year one we weren't living together all of the time with all of the kids, and I think while SO was telling me he had NO BM DRAMA...it was because he was a divorced husband...of course there will be no drama if he is still filling that role in her life...I put it out there that I would NOT stick around with an individual who makes me his mistress to ex relationship...or someone who is Disney Dad with kids who are disrespectful, mean, and manipulative. He has changed the Disney dad and divorced husband...but the kids are with their mother most of the time...and are just like her. OSD cried the other day when my SO took away a privilege because she continued to backtalk...BM laughs at her, tells her she is funny and cute...SD legitimately struggles with this concept because of BMs reinforcement...absolutely not allowed in our house.

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Submitted by whatwasithinkin on Wed, 11/06/2013 - 2:38pm

Well I don't necc agree with you know what your getting into.

but you should have a pretty good idea, not much can change . 5Months.

my question is always the same, what have you voiced to your wife?