As most of you know from previous blogs that most of our BM issues seem to revolve around either control or DH's family. Well we have new delema.

Youngest SS turns 7 on mothers day. We have boys all this week as BM is on a business trip and then this is our weekend. There were som small squables when DH told her she could pay for xtra day of ycare. She got a little pissy about how she thought we would be grateful( gotta love that comment) to have them xtra & DH pointed out we are thrilled, however since they are signed up for so much xtracaricular we are basically just running them around, and she is still getting child support while they are here. We are feeding them, clothing them, had to work differnt hours because we will not make these kids go to ycare at 6 am in the morning. She works later than either of us. ( She makes almost as much as the two of us together & then gets 1/3 cs 1/3 ycare & we pay for medical insurance & 1/2 out of pocket. I just shelled out 375 for the ortho & she had given me a lesser amount so imagine my surprise when the bill came.) Sorry to gripe about money too, she acts like she is poverty stricken when in truth no one is. ( hate cheap people)

Any ways youngest SS turns 7 this month on mothers day, not our weekend. We are having a party here for him this Sunday. BM knows this & told DH to invite his parents, younger brother, and god father (who DH hates because he is a user) Dh declined to go on his mother's xmas get a way because he HATES his older brother ( who abused him) BM & her BF are invited to DH's family events & we are not. He has emailed & left messages about our baby & they don't respond. BM knows we have nothing to do with these people. He goes a head & invites parents & we get no response ( big surprise) He also invites BM & BF to stop by as she will not have seen he kids for a week. She sends email declining saying it would be akward as my family will be here. WTF I have had to be at events with her family who hate DH. She has met my parents & they were extreemly friendly to her. It is akward to have cake with us, but noy for her & BF to go to evil brother's sons communion.

Last night 9 y/o ss tells me that bm has invited DH's parents to his baseball game ( on mothers day evening...who comes up with this schedule) which happens to fall on youngest ss's birthday. Appartently it was grandparents day last Friday & DH's dad showed up, but we had no idea. There is a school newsletter but she gets it & sometimes passes it on. I think DH needs to get signed up for it. Not like it would have mattered in this case.

So the big question is why tell us to invite them (probably knowing they wouldn't come) and then turn around & invite them to something we would be at w/o telling us. Do we go? DH sent BM scathing email about this, telling her that they don't give a shit about him, me or the baby and that if they want knothing to do with this baby why should they have anything to do with the other two.

It all is exhausting. I would understand if I was some whore that broke up the marriage, but I am a nice professional woman who everyone admits treats the boys very well. And she has a freakin BF & is happy so what is the problem. If anyone should be incomfrtable it's me! And guess what I put up with it because it makes those boys feel good to be able to have everyone together.

Thanks for listening, any advice would be appreciated.