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Sweet T's picture

The hearing went well. We have actually been communicatng with each other pretty well. I can tell he is doing better mentally BUT there are things that let me know that he is just wired differntly than others. I just need him to be a good dad and that I believe he is trying to do.

I thought I had worked through most of it, but I have felt a kind of sad the last 2 days.

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Sweet T's picture

He had the MMPPII test done right before we split, he suffers from depression anxiety and passive aggressive personality disorder adn a mix of a few other. My therapist says the passive aggressive is where the anger and manipulation comes from.

I would have laid odds on borderline as well.

askYOURdad's picture

You have just closed one chapter and it's time for a new one. You get to decide how this next one goes. Make it an adventure girl!!!! Always remember the last chapter though, because if you ever want to "re-read" it, it will still end the same way. It's okay to be sad and mourn the loss of your marriage, so long as it doesn't cloud your judgment. Stay Strong SweeT!

Jsmom's picture

That was fast, but I am happy for you...Now stay away from men for awhile and heal yourself and focus on your bio. Glad it went so well.

Sweet T's picture

I actually liked my step sons, so for me it is bitter sweet.

It took 3 months for the divorce, it seemed like an eternity when all the hell was going on. We no longer owned a house and other than our son had nothing to fight over.

Overworked, I hope it flys by for you!

Sweet T's picture

Me too. It was easier when he was being an ass. He has apologized for his abusive behavior of me leading up to the incident. He says he feels better than he has in a long time and is working on his mental illness with his doctors. He is trying to be a better more involved father to all 3 boys and that is good.

I am moving on and like my freedom to do what I want when I want. If I were to date it will be casual as all I really want is the fun with out the playing house aspect. I don't want my son exposed to someone else.

Sweet T's picture

Apparently in my great state it is. THe DV case is over, he pleed guilty and is on probabtion for the next year. He screws up, he goes to jail and he does not want that. He is in therapy and does seem to be doing okay. We ended up not doing the custody evaluation because he gave in to what I was proposing. He sees him EOW with his brothers and has the same holiday schedule as they do. He gets two calls a week from BS as well.

My lawyer says that I probably would not have gotten this much control if we had not gone through the eval. I have sole physical and we have joint legal with him which is fine we are the same religion, education is important to both of us.

If we had done the eval then it would have taken several more months. The whole process took 3 months.

Tuff Noogies's picture

congrats, doll!!!

now, just breathe. just be.

yes, it'd be nice if he could be a good father. but that's up to him now. meh.

exhale.