They did exactly what I have been trying to tell DH to do for years!! They drew the line-since the kid's school did (what I would describe) as an "intervention", she has stopped calling our house! I am amazed. She actually listened to them. I think it helped that they typed up notes on the meeting & sent it home with SD. I think she needed that to solidify in her mind, what was agreed upon (she is not to go into the school when dropping off the kids) and that DH will let the kids initiate the phone calls when it is appropriate. WOW! I am amazed that they did that. Now that's devine intervention! My prayers have been answered. It's one step in the right direction. DH has been recording their phone conversations (she calls him at work)and we are looking into lawyers to continue to maintain some boundaries with BM. I know not to let my guard down, (she really is crazy), and I am still afraid that she might pull some psycho move to "make me pay". She said in the school meeting that she blames ME for all of "this". She indicated to DH that she told the kids that DH & I are to blame that she is not allowed to walk them into the school anymore. What a nut job! (The school called this meeting, we had NOTHING to do with it & she knows that). What an idiot. She is so stupid, she fails to recognize that she is only hurting the kids with her idiotic behavior! She is really loosing it...I hope "payback" isn't too wicked. If you don't hear from me, you'll know that she got her revenge. (She has a handgun & has threatened my DH) For now-things are good! We had a good time with the kids this weekend & they seemed really happy. My stepson has actually been showing me a LOT of respect lately-smiling at me, talking to me a TON. Maybe we will actually be able to get back to what it was before BM started to interfere!
(That was a very brief period of time before she started hearing from her kids about how great they thought I was, and also before I was too dumb to notice that she was still playing "wife" with my husband)