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Moving out; long distance marriage

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Submitted by surprisestepmother on Sat, 11/07/2020 - 8:46am

With worsening COVID metrics in my state, it's only starting to get more and more dangerous to have what is essentially a stranger with unknown exposure (BM doesn't care) going back and forth. My soon to be two kids are not exactly low risk, and I will rain hellfire if SD takes one or both of my children from me.

Can't believe the things that make me jealous now

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Submitted by surprisestepmother on Fri, 10/09/2020 - 9:11am

I got off the phone with my cousin that just had her divorce finalized back in November of last year. She just signed on a house with an aggressive mortgage. Her divorce settlement is the most spectacular thing I've ever seen. Now, her husband did cheat on her while she was pregnant resulting in her and her child having HIV, which deserves some punishment, but this is just...wow.

Long distance custody plan due to COVID?

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Submitted by surprisestepmother on Tue, 09/22/2020 - 5:56am

So things have changed. The new thing that's come up is the very real possibility that there may not be a job market for me if we stay in this state. I'm a wedding planner, and have experience in corporate event planning. The state we currently live in has the harshest lockdown strategies, and is slated to be the longest hold out for reopening.  It's entirely possible that the entire industry will collapse here under all the rules. 

Ugh

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Submitted by surprisestepmother on Sun, 06/07/2020 - 2:10am

A new weekend visit is upon me and I am ready to lose my mind

The bio might have actually won the battle of me nursing freely, because two hours in, I shut myself and the baby in the nursery because I was .5 seconds from raging and going to live with the bears in the woods. I just couldn't deal with SD constantly looking at and poking me, because her way of getting attention is to jab people in the shoulder or wherever she can reach at full strength, regardless of what they're doing. 

Are these rules crazy?

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Submitted by surprisestepmother on Thu, 06/04/2020 - 8:32am

I've been working on some ground rules for this mess, and I think I have some solid starters. Do you think these rules are unreasonable, and what do you think should be added?

General Rules.

1. I cannot be held to any custody agreement they have whatsoever. I am not responsible for pick-ups, contact, or asking permission for anything. 

1a. If he's denied permission for anything, like my family's July 4th gathering because it is held at a family owned nudist campground) he is responsible for making sure he's still there. I am not a single mother.