How she hates to be ignored
Things have been relatively quite in our world. I met BM not too long ago and other than her high pitched, overly gushy chit chat and the limp noodle hand shake she gave, things stayed at a tolerably awkward level ( no drama). Well wildebeest must be having a rough week. She has been texting later and later in the evening, FDH ignores those texts because he has told her that anything after eight pm (emergencies excluded of course) is inappropriate. Last night came to a head with multiple texts, ending in her telling him he won't be allowed to see FSD because he is disrespecting her by not texting back rightnow. She ended her texting around 10 pm with you MUST respect me, I am SDs mother. FDH, texted her today to confirm pick up time and she began the verbal defecation yet again. I haven't seen them yet, but I'm guessing its along the normal BM blather: you're a horrible father, I hold all the cards, You WILL do as I say... Makes me wonder, do you think that some of the BMs have a shitty week and try to take it out on our DHs because they don't want their current partner to know just how nuts they are? And the ignore button seems to drag out more crazy. Just wondering.
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Hey C, FDH has done a very
Hey C, FDH has done a very good job of setting boundaries. It just gets tiresome, more for him than me. They've been apart for over five years and he said she only started up with this garbage when we started dating. Sigh.
We haven't had to deal with
We haven't had to deal with the clothing issue to date. What a PITA.
It's peaceful, until it
It's peaceful, until it isn't. We are saving up for the court battle that will be starting shortly. In the meantime we are documenting everything.
Excellent response foxie, I'm
Excellent response foxie, I'm sure if she starts early enough he can use it. He's been getting the first texts after eight, hence the radio silence. He doesn't want to engage with her that late because he feels it condones her behavior.
He has already told her that
He has already told her that 8pm is the cutoff, any response after that is giving her what she wants. Even if it's Eff Off.
When they feel less control and happiness in their personal life, they amp it up in our DH's lives because they think they can.
"You MUST respect me". What a joke, just having a kid does not warrant respect.
BM over here thought she held all the cards and thought my DH would do anything in the name of SD. She found out how wrong she was.
I think you hit the nail on
I think you hit the nail on the head hereiam. FDH has SMS backup and restore for all her texts. When she's in this kind of mood she sends him triple the amount of texts that I send him :jawdrop: I sometimes think its a trying for attention thing as well.
Wow! This is exactly how BM
Wow! This is exactly how BM was too! It was a cycle..calm period and then something would go wrong in her life and who was to blame!? DH of course! Its like you described "our" BM Ick! Not Our but BM over here lol!...these women seem to have very similar issues...Controling, using kids to try and hurt DHs or get what they want...and what pisses them off the most is when we all IGNORE them! Then the Rants fire up! Lol love it! Love Ignoring everything that comes from her cuz I KNOW that she would get a Huge satisfaction from even the smallest reaction from me! Never happened and it NEVER will!