How to tell SD I'm pregnant again?
I told my husband I wanted to do something special with SD to tell her I'm pregnant. But I don't know what to do or say!! She's coming over tomorrow so I feel like I have to tell her tomorrow.
SD is 13yo. She lives with her mother and 2 brothers by different men. She comes over about twice a month to spend the night (so about 2 days-4 days a month). She normally spends most of her time while here in her bedroom, playing on her iPhone. I don't know if she's really going to care that we're having another baby.
In any case, I'm not sure how to tell her.
I was thinking of taking her out to Panera's, her favorite restaurant. But I don't even know how to start the conversation. I don't know if she'll be upset or happy. When we told her we wanted another baby, she acted kind of like she didn't care...I haven't seen her in more than 2 months, and I'm just nervous about it.
What should I do??? What should I say???
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We did the same with the
We did the same with the kids. My bio already knew since he loved with me. DH started the convo by asking how they felt about having a new baby sister. We talked about their feelings and then told them her suspected birthday. Then we showed them her ultrasound pics.
That's cool!! We don't know
That's cool!! We don't know the gender yet since I'm still early, but I like that idea!
Thanks! our biggest concern
Thanks!:) our biggest concern was that they felt connected and involved.
We've got some news to share
We've got some news to share sd, we are expecting a baby.
Why making it special?? I
Why making it special??
I would simply keep quiet till I start to show and then say, yes I'm pregnant, sorry but according to me it's got nothing to do with any one if I'm pregnant or not... it's between my partner and I only, and I will simply confirm when asked... You do not have to tell her anything, her father can if he wants to...
Maybe it's just the way Martians are...it's a private matter
I think telling her in public
I think telling her in public is a bad idea if you aren't sure that she will react positively, or even neutrally.
Stories on here in the past would have me think she isn't going to care. Actually, she may be kind of disgusted because your baby is confirmation that you have recently had sex with her father, and no 13 year old wants to think about that.
I'd just sit her down and tell her with her dad, or more appropriately, have him do it. If she reacts well to the news, then consider doing something cutesy with her, like getting sibling pictures after the baby is born.
I would not make a big deal
I would not make a big deal out of it. Wait until you are 12 weeks in and then mention "Oh SD, your Dad and I are having another baby. The due date is March next year. Nothing much will change and there is always a place for you here. There is always room for another person to love." In fact it should be DH telling his daughter not you. And he should let her know you both see her as an older sister and not as an on-site babysitter.
What would you do if all the
What would you do if all the children were yours and your husband's? Would you make a big deal out of it? Would you just say "you're going to have another sibling?"
Her reaction is not going to change the reality of it, right? It is what it is, we're having a baby, done.
There is nothing more
There is nothing more romantic than keeping a pregnancy private for as long as possible.
It least it was for my DH and I.
For the life of me I DO not understand why younger adults (less than 40) has this insatiable need to share every dam thing with minor kids.
No wonder kids do not see adults as authority figures. Tell all your best friends---keep the kids out of this. JMO
**My mother often shared the story with me about her own Mother. She never knew her mom was pregnant...one day she woke UP and there was a sibling. LOL It happened 3 times.**
ENJOY your pregnancy. Remember you don't have to tell anyone especially kids.
That actually happened when
That actually happened when my youngest sister was born. We had no idea our mom was pregnant. One morning we wake up and the neighbor is sleeping on our couch. She told us our mom was at the hospital and would be home the next day. Mom came home with a baby. I was only 7 years old and already had 2 other younger siblings.
I wouldn't tell her in
I wouldn't tell her in public.
My DS was 8 when I told him I was pregnant with DD. He'd talked for years about having a little brother or sister. He completely lost it when I told him. He started bawling and nearly hyperventilated. I was taken aback. Never in a million years did I expect that reaction.
We sat and talked for about an hour. Turned out he was afraid we'd run out of money if we had a baby and he wouldn't get to buy toys anymore. No idea where he got that from. After a few hours he bounced back and was super excited.
Skids were like, "Oh. Cool." when we told them. They didn't really care until she was born.
You never know how anyone will react.