It does suck bs is caught in the middle, but he's not alone, bs17 (almost 18) left his dad permenantly over a yr ago and hasn't looked back. Xh did entice bs17 to a motocross race a month ago but then while driving him home xh went on and on about how horrible I am and how I have done all this to them, etc... Bs17 got back to college and called me and said he was so freakin upset with his dad, he wore headphone going home and still couldn't blast away the bitterness xh was spewing. He doubts he'll see his dad again for awhile. Bs15 on the other hand has been sheltered from xh's crud by being the youngest and xh doesn't dump on him, but he drinks and so bs15 hides out in his room while he's there eow. Xh's own dad did the same thing to him and his brother and you'd think he'd see what he's doing, especially since years ago we even talked about his dad and how he'd never be that way to his boys. It just goes to show that if your dealt the bipolar genes it's pretty darn hard to avoid the same path as your parent unless you're willing to get help. Last night bs15 said he feels sorry for his dad, but not enough to let his mond go there for more then a second of his time. Bs15 has really grown up lately and is happy and well adjusted. I pray daily that my boys don't have too much of that bad gene from their dad. I'm not sure what my next move is going to be, if anything. I might just let xh ruin his own chances when it comes to spending time with the boys.

For xh everything has always been about money and not about his kids. Yesterday I received a copy of a letter sent to xh from DCS in the mail, that he is required to pay child support for bs17 until he is 18 or has stopped going to school. Job corps falls under the category of schooling, and bs is going to be at job corps until he is at least 19, so about another 1 1/2 yrs or so. I bet xh is livid about that; he actually took me to court over trying to prove Job Corps was not schooling and that since bs17 is not living at home he is not being supported by me. I had documents and receipts showing that I still spend a good amount on bs still - sending him petty cash for extra clothes, food, I even bought him a small flat screen tv for his bunk, bus tickets home to visit which are $100 round trip, etc. I don't HAVE to buy this stuff for bs, but child support is money for the kids' expenses. He doesn't have expenses at home right now but he does where he is at. Unfortunately I have not received ANY cs since last Dec so the whole time bs17 has been at Job Corps I have forked it out of my own paycheck. Xh is just a dick. The only word I know to describe him

So to recap, xh took me to court twice since January, once to get out of paying child support for bs17 and was denied, and once to make me amend my taxes so he could claim bs17 even though he was caught up on his cs and he was granted. So in the end he paid an attorney $1800 and got to claim bs17 for $1500 and I received his taxes of $1,000 for cs. So he didn't make any money on this but he did all that to prove his point to me and to try to get any money he could from me or rather save himself from having to give me money. He truly is a dick.

So I don't think he's been kidnapped, more like he's damping his wounds with too much beer.