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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Thu, 10/11/2012 - 12:11pm

Well ss15 was home alone yesterday for a couple ours but wen I got home he fled rather quickly. I thought it odd since the past few days have been fine. Well I was cooking supper and went to sit down on the couc in my usual spot and there tucked down by the cushion is a book. I pulled it out and it's just a regualar school comp book but I know it's ss15's. I briefly let the pages fall open just to see what the subject was and was going to throw it into his room, but low and behold it is not a school book but his personal journal. Te journal is all about is 20 yr old gf. He goes on and on how he loves her and says things like adults are keeping them apart for now but it's only making his love for her stronger. I didn't mean to read it but it struck a note of sympathy in me b/c when I was in highschool my ex husband and I were bf/gf and he wrote the very same love letters to me. Of course I was extremely careful to HIDE all of them!! I got to thinking how if ss15 stays in love with her it might benefit me in that he might move out of the house a lot sooner then he would otherwise b/c she will want to have them shack up or whatever sooner then he's ready b/c she is 4 1/2 years older then him. But I am not going to say that to DH b/c he's already against it all.

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Submitted by crystalclear on Thu, 10/11/2012 - 12:17pm

Seriously? Do you ever wonder why a 20yr old would want to date a 15yr old seems to me she not be all there ???

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Submitted by imjustthemaid on Thu, 10/11/2012 - 2:45pm

When I was 16, my boyfriend was 21. He taught me how to drive on his camaro. My parents didn't like it but they didn't say too much. Eventually I got bored of him after almost 2 years and broke it off. No harm done Smile

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Submitted by LaMareOssa on Thu, 10/11/2012 - 2:46pm

I would tell DH and make sure it is stopped. Call the police. Honestly, would you have the same feeling if it was a 15 year old girl with a 20 year old man???? It really seems like this type of disgusting behavior is acceptable only if the child is a male. Sad

Or..Are you not going to tell DH because you're hoping she will help your SS move out sooner????? The relationship needs to end. IMO.

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Thu, 10/11/2012 - 4:40pm

I do see all of your points of view and I have the same thoughts, but I give up on trying to play mom in this situation. I was being selfish in thinking it'd get him out the door sooner b/c I cannot stand ss15 in the least. I even wonder what this 20 yr old woman sees in him. I have only met her once and she looks like she is 12 and acts like 12 and thus she thinks ss15 is that and a bag of potatoe chips. I personally think once she hits 21 she will hit the bar scene and forget all about ss but maybe not. Also I think the feelings ss15 has for her might just be more onesided then he wants to believe. Not sure on that though.

When you say to have dh call the cops, I have suggested that to Dh several times but he says he wants to handle it with the girl's parents and I honestly think Dh doesn't think it's that serious anymore. A few months ago he caught ss walking up from a park close by and saw this girls walking across the field with a blanket and ss18 was in the car with dh and ss18 got out of the car and was yelling at his younger brother the consequences for his actions etc and then later ss18 drove over to this girls house b/c they were in highschool together and he told her to leave his little brother alone. It got quiet for awhile when the parents sent the girl on summer holidays but she's back and now ss15 and her are just being more sneaky.

I personally am glad I am not in DH's shoes b/c this is a difficult situation to deal with. Short of us moving out of town they are going to find ways to meet up together. Remember the two times I mentioned ss15 slamming doors in my face and threatened me by raising his fist to me, well both of those times I mentioned he'd better be careful about this girl b/c the ripples will go on forever if something happened. He said he's using a condom and I told him that I used condoms and the pill while married to my xh and now have 3 kids and also look at your older sister who is pregnant while on bc. It just angered him. Stepbitch is not so far off in that one day ss15 could be paying child support at the very least, not raising it b/c there's NO WAY IN HELL I'd raise ss's kid, but for sure working a job while still in highschool to pay for it. Or DH gets stuck with the effin support. Now wouldn't that be a stinger.