Sorry, this is sorta long...

I had a light bulb moment yesterday. It's a bit hard to explain this whole situation to all of you so I will try to nutshell it and have it make sense. About a year and a half ago my ss18 moved in with us when he was 17. At the time ss15 was 14. Well these boys would do things to get the other in trouble all the time, and if things disappeared or things happened around the house, neither of them would own up to it and always blame the other. For instance, dh would buy things and it would disappear and the eveidence would either be hidden like under sinks, in the unused wood stove, behind orunder piles of clothes or beds, etc. Someone would piss on the deck and no one had done it, I would buy special foods for a meal and it would get eaten and no one had eaten it, poop would be smeared on the toilet seat and no one shit that day or all week for that matter, (you get the picture). We always automatically blamed ss18 for everything and at times he'd get so mad for being blamed and deny it and we punished him to no end.

Well lately little things have been happening again and ss18 has moved out but my two boys bs17 and bs14 live here now. Well ss15 seems to always be involved but blames it on bs17 now. Like all the ramen gets eaten and ss15 says bs17 ate it all but I find about 7 bowls under his desk and they all have noodle remnants, I stashed chocolate in my top drawer and suddenly it's gone and I ask who took it and ss15 blames bs17 but then a week later I find the wrapper under his pillow, etc.. I put bs17's phone in my drawer with his permission b/c ss15 kept taking it to borrow it and it was taken out of my drawer but no one took it - see the pattern coming back?

So two days ago DH and I had hectic days at work and were both tired but decided to go out to a movie together. When we left dh had set a bottle of hard alcohol in the garage in a hidden spot for us for later and when we got home it was gone. ss15 says he saw bs17 and friends going in and out of garage around supper time. I question bs17 and he said his friend were all gone before supper and I remember them following us out as we drove to the movies so the friends weren't even here after dh put the bottle in the garage. Now why would ss15 even make up such a story? I guess it obvious to you all that he is covering his ass but of course he never ever does ANYTHING around here :jawdrop:

For awhile I was angry b/c no one was fessing up AS USUAL and it was an expensive bottle. I was pondering and pondering on this whole entire issue yesterday. Where the hell would a bottle of alcohol go, it cannot just run away on it's own two feet. I still don't know who took it b/c I have not found the evidence (bottle) stashed anywhere yet, but here is what I am concluding; I really honestly am thinking that ss15 is trying to get the others in trouble so there is division in the home or something. It seems he is always making up weird little stories of how he saw or heard or found something on the other boys and then either tells DH this story or waits until dh asks and then tells him the story. He told me several times that he hated his older brother living with us b/c it "inconvenienced" him (his brother used the xbox and computer and so he got less time and also no more one on one with dh), and now I am wondering if he is slowly building a case against bs17 so that we finally kick him out too just like wekicked ss18 out last spring.

Then I got to thinking more and started remembering how ss15 has behaved over the last 3 1/2 years since I've been in his life. He had 100% of his dad's and my attentions for 2 whole years and soaked it in like a little prince and his dad was prefectly the guilt dad and gave ss15 everything he wanted plus ALL of his attentions. Also I am starting to see how ss15 is a lot like bm. She is an evil, selfish person who will stop at nothing to hurt and destroy anyone who is not making her world the way she wants it, including getting rid of her boys, but she is very savy and does it in a very sneaky way by making it everyone elses ideas. Is it possible that ss15 has some of that in him too. He acts all innocent and nieve and never hardly talks and never ever shares with us anything, he rarely even talks to me or my boys, and is often sarcastic to me in one or two word sentances, like I will say oh no you ate my hotdogs I was going to make for supper and he'll say "oh forgive me". I've mentioned before he creaps me out a lot.

So do you think maybe I am way in outer space on this or could there be something to my observations? I am not going to say anything to dh. He absolutely thinks the sun rises and sets on ss15. His son can do hardly any wrong except young boy stuff. DH honestly thinks that ss18 is like bm and that ss15 is like him. But I have to say that maybe in a lot of ways he is right but it seems ss15 might have gotten the evil gene from bm and it's mutated into something more quiet and sinister. I am almost thinking this kid could use some counseling. He seems very angry, especially at his own mother. He hates her and wants nothing to do with her ever. He has successfully cut her out of his life, I wonder if he is trying to cut others out of his life. Once he told me he hates his dad and wishes to be so bad that his dad kicks him out.He has since gotten a bit better but he seems to have a twisted side to him.

Ok that is about it on this topic.

Thought?