My skids R fakE.
:O OMG. So I have too lovely step children sd10 ss9.They r jst the light of my fn life!!..Right. About 2 years back stARTED dating my bf.And his kids.lol.i mean it.HE leaned on them like they were his own personal fn diary.Anything that went on between myself in him.they knew about.N it only benif them..as there fake a** bio mom hate me for no reason. Those brats saw there sad healing dad as leverage. They pretend to be all nice n s***.n the next min they are smaking my bio son.my bf thinks its a joke.Ill show him a joke.My son no longer lives with me.he lives with his dad.My bfn i have a 6 mon old d together now. is he gonna think its a joke when they hurt her.they can fool there dad all the f*** they want but when they try to hurt my baby. Or get jelious in cant even c him hold her without making the attention on them.somethings wrong with that.
Sd plays nice with baby n is nice to me one day...la dee da/Soon as dad comes hom from wrk..smart remarks about baby.Calling her a dog..in trying to tell her dad the baby hates him.Shoving her selfish self all up in his grill like she fn 2 years old..so no one can say hi or anything to him.wtf is the matter with her.I SERIOUSLY WANT TO TELL HER TO JST GROW UP. N QUIT ACTING LIKE A BABY.
SS.Refuses to read or do anthing that he is tolds...homewrk clean room ect..Crys like HE is 4...then when all is said n done. Is kissin me n huging me..to get my attention on him n not his dad.These fn brats really think im stupid. Tired off all the bull shit drama.Not to mention the bio baby mamma.lol...Need bf to have more of a back bone n not a fn matt..for his kids..Someone stop me.Im on a roll....Pissed. Tried to be nice tried to be pacient.After 2 years youd think id get somewhere other then here.N to make matters worst that bio mom of theirs always trys to be fake also..being all nice n then a complete b****.eversince i had my bio daughter..the baby.She wants to pretend to be super mom..after not being anykind of mom for over those to years.trying to make me look bad.She n skids must of fogot who had been there taking care n caring for them.jelious a** hatefull now that that the baby is here.Ahhh,HELP ME.
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Please sit down and have a
Please sit down and have a calm discussion with him about this. Let him know that jealousies are running high (on all sides!) and that it's going to require his help to get it under control. Try to get on the same page with him. Maybe try getting into some sort of routine, have him spend some time with the older kids after work, playing, doing homework, etc. Then some time for you and the baby, perhaps while they are bathing and settling into bed. But I think it's also important to involve them with baby stuff, so that they begin to think of baby as one of them. Perhaps Dad and kids can bathe and change baby while you're cooking or doing the dishes? Something to involve them, rather than trying to keep them separate. Work out some sort of schedule, make sure they are aware of it, and stick to it. Get him to enforce it, so that they don't feel like you're the bad guy.
I agree with the above
I agree with the above poster. I will also add that my step daughter was very jealous when I first started dating her dad (my husband now) it takes a while for children to get used to "sharing" their dad. Also, if they aren't completely used to "sharing" their dad and then you two bring a baby into the picture, I imagine the children are having a really difficult time adjusting to their new situation. This is something that may take some time..months or even years. All children are different.
Secondly, if his children are hitting your son, you really need to put a stop to that. Your boyfriend/ husband really needs to enforce this.
As for their biological mother, don't worry about her being two faced. Some people are just like that. You can not control it and don't let what she thinks about you bother you.
Hope this helps, even just a little. Good luck.
Thanks for the comment.I def
Thanks for the comment.I def believe in the whole rutine thing.My bf tho is a very closed off person and he takes things very personal when it comes to his kids.He sees no flaws..and even if he did he would forget about it later.They have no set for bedtime routine..jst whenever he decides.on school nights they can stay up even until midnight.His son is tired n grumpy and i have to deal with it.The daughter falling alseep in class.This is all funny to bf.He makes a joke of it.wtf.
But also on involving the kids.They do help alot with the baby.That is one thing i did make sure to inforce..but nothing is consistant in this house hold.And my bf does not help.
Hmmm....Your boyfriend finds
Hmmm....Your boyfriend finds it funny? How is falling asleep in class a joke? I'm sorry to be so blunt, but sounds as though your boyfriend is very immature and not quite ready to be a parent. :jawdrop:
Samantha, I hear you - the
Samantha, I hear you - the kids are jealous but I would just ignore them and put them in their child place - with some understanding if you can. All of you will have to compromise to get along.
Maybe you can try to work on your individual relationships with each child, have something special that is just for you two, find out what their favorite meal, game, etc. is. Read stories to them if they are good.
In the evenings maybe go sit in your room sometimes and chat with your girlfriends or relatives, and let their dad watch them for a change. It will take time, probably several years, for these types of things to get sorted out.
Good luck in your situation and welcome!