they say if you can't control it let it go..... boy does that take some effort! I spent last night awake till 4am stressing about the upcoming wedding in July when the exW is showing up to my husbands niece's wedding (as she has to all family events over the past 15 years since the divorce - read other posts on the family silence and collusion and the fact my husband never stepped in to stop it)..... anyway -- back to the sleepless night -- not only are we faced with $300 for accommodation as the sister is accommodating the ExW and not us (her Brother) AND NOW....what am I going to do if she is given a better table (ie with sisters & husbands) whilst we get to sit with distant relatives/cousins...... I can't believe it kept me awake so long or that I was lying there getting upset...... She's not even thinking about it. Neither is my husband, or his sisters (let's say Eastwick is missing 3 residents!.....)

So my big question is.... you know the theory, but how do you stop this incessant 'what if's' and then getting upset over things that haven't even come to pass?