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Is this just a guy thing? FDH has no idea how much time has elapsed....

SteppingUp's picture

FDH was cleaning out our deep freeze, and pulled out some pork chops from the very bottom. He said, "Ooooh, remember when you made these and they were so good? You should do that again." I stared at him...okay probably glared at him. I said "I have NEVER EVER EVER in my life made pork chops. I don't like them, therefore I would NEVER EVER EVER make them, much less BUY them."

He actually argued with me about it, saying that he remembers it....I'm like ABSOLUTELY NOT! They are obviously from when BM lived here with you. Finally he looks at the date...yup they were 2008! We met in 2009. This all happened like last summer.

Yesterday, I asked FDH if I could throw away this old down-filled mattress cover thing that's been just taking up space in a closet. We don't use it because A) I didn't want to use something that was most likely BM's on their shared BED, Dirol I don't like them, C) we have kids who are in our bed sometimes and spill things, and they're supposed to be dry cleaned.

While we were stuffing it into a garbage bag, he said, "I can't believe you wanted this so bad and now you're just throwing it away." I was like, EXCUSE ME??? I WANTED THIS? HeLL NO!

So he proceeds to basically argue with me that I wanted it so bad and asked him if we could buy it and he agreed and then I haven't even used it in forever. I'm like NO! I DID NOT buy this thing, because I WOULDN'T buy one...they are expensive, I think they're lumpy, and hard to take care of. He goes, "This thing IS NOT more than 3 years old...." and I'm like you bet your butt it is! He said, "Well why would BM take her bed/mattress but not take this when she moved out?" and I said "Maybe because you were left with essentially an air mattress (crappy knock off sleep number bed) so she let you keep it." He was quiet....so I must have triggered a memory.

ARGGG!! So Why do men have such horrible concept of time!??

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PrincessFiona's picture

I am SOOOO with you on this. My DH is the same way. Many, many times he has argued with me about things that I have supposedly said or done or bought.

Sometimes I think it irritates me because I feel like I'm just a continuation of another relationship. Mostly its just me over reacting but really, I dont' do that to him.

Maybe it is a man thing!

Jsmom's picture

Both of us do this. My answer is usually that was your first wife and if you continue talking you will be on your third wife...

I traveled so much with my late DH and now with this one, I mix up memories of trips and hotels. He gets frustrated with me. So I think we are even.

As for things in this house relating to her, I redecorated everything and all the pics are in the top of the hall closet and when I feel like it one day, they will disappear. There is no way I would have sheets or anything that they used in this house. All of that is gone. New furniture, everything. Get rid of it all and then his memories won't happen so frequently...

SteppingUp's picture

Yeah I thought I purged everything, but we just have some old blankets left over really and that was it. Otherwise our entire house is re-arranged and re-decorated also! Smile

oceangirl3's picture

My BF does the same thing. He will swear to me that we have done something together when we haven't. It used to bother me that he would get me and his ex confused, now I just accept it as that he really is that daft at times. I definitely do not confuse him with my ex. My BF is 100% better than my ex. I think men just get caught up in the past and want everything to be happy and they don't know what they are doing.

simifan's picture

ROFL... I am constantly teasing DH saying that he memory dumped everything. Maybe this is not such a bad thing after all }:)

SteppingUp's picture

Ha...yes it's not so bad if you look at it a certain way. But I hate when he puts his memories of her onto me, like I did something! NO, ABSOLUTELY NOT! haha!