I really need to start blogging here again more often! I've realized it was such a good way not only to vent, but also to keep record of the crazy crap that BM does. We're trying to keep documentation but that gets so hard to keep up with at times. I've just got a few things to vent about today! They prove - for the zillionth time - that to BM, she is more important than her kids.

First, I had to practically hold BM's hand while signing up SS4 for t-ball. I actually emailed her a month BEFORE the cut off date about signing him up. Then a week before the cut off date (since we are EOW we HAVE to work with her on the schedule, otherwise we'd just sign him up and take him ourselves, plus she's supposed to pay for extra curriculars). A month after the sign up she emails me asking me when was the sign up? After emailing her screen shots of what to click on the park district's website, she finally figured out how to see the schedule. Then I had to find a phone number for her to call to see if we can still get in (believe me I offered to do it all but she refused and said she would do it, but knowing her she would put it off and never do it so I kept forcing the issue/holding her hand through it). So we get SS4 signed up, hooray! Then we have to figure out how we're going to work out getting SS7 to her gymnastics class on Tuesday nights as that night overlaps between the two sports. So I make a schedule, send it to BM as a suggestion, and she says that will work out perfectly! Hooray again, for a successful interaction with BM! Even if I DID have to hold her hand...

Then I ask, "Does SS4 need a mitt and bat and ball for t-ball or do they supply it?" She tells me she will check on that.

My husband and I went on a vacation. Came back and the next day was t-ball. We asked BM again if she found out whether he needs a mitt and bat? She never made an effort to find out. So DH calls the park district to find out and yes, he does. So DH runs on his half hour lunch break to get one -- mind you, BM had had 2 weeks to figure that out herself but she doesn't care, so she won't do it. (I know, I know, we should know better by now and just do everything ourselves instead of trying to see if she'll step up to the plate.)

Later we find out that BM will not be coming to watch her son play tball for the first time, because SHE IS PLAYING BEACH VOLLEYBALL AT A BAR! Oh wait, so what is going to happen with SD7 going to gymnastics that night???? (the plan was that BM would take her on Tuesdays). Guess who doesn't get to go to gymnastics this session becase BM is playing volleball herself on Tuesday nights? Poor SS7!!!! And of course WE had to break the news to her that she wasn't signed up for gymnastics...BM never even bothered to tell her. I was SOOO LIVID but of course couldn't really show it to the kids...but I'm still livid about it! BM's "Excuse" was that she had signed up for a different night but her team got switched to Tuesday. Any normal mother would say, "Oh then I can't do it that night, my kids are in sports." Oh but here's the kicker...she never once called or texted at aLL last week to see how t-ball went. Her 4 year old son is in a new sport, and you don't even care to see how it went????? (Nor did she make an effort to come to watch him on Thursday's practice either, although no volleyball that night!).

So I emailed her the next day and said, just to be sure, is our schedule back to normal then becase we were doing something different to have SD7 get to gymnastics? She said yes, "my life is just too crazy right now and I didn't have the money to put her in gymnastics last week. So she'll be in it next time, but I dont really understand what class she is supposed to sign up for this time? I will have to ask Daughter because she usually knows what's going on." UGH!!! She doesn't have a clue what the hell is going on with her kids, she relies on her 7 year old daughter to tell her what gymnastics class she should be in????? And I SOOOOOOO wanted to write back to her, "Yeah it must be hard to pay for things like that when you're spending your $1k child support check on your bar tab." (of course I didn't!)

THEN the very next day, I'm tucking in SS7, and she says, "SteppingUp? Can you text my mommy and ask her to bring my medicine tomorrow? She said she was going to yesterday and she obviously forgot.....*sigh* she forgets everything." A 7 year old should not be worrying about this stuff when she goes to bed!!!!!

I had told BM the day before we went on vacation that SS7's medicine would be out in a day or 2 (she's taking oral meds for warts, fyi) so she could get a refill right away. So guess what? BM STILL - 2 weeks later -- had not refilled her medicine!!!! WTF!!!! Again BM's excuse, no money, but she gets paid this week, blah blah blah.

Oh, and then one day when it was BM's week, I picked up BS from day care and she (daycare) was telling SS4 to go put his shorts back on because he was wearing pj pants. I asked if he had an accident and she said no....that his shorts were so tight he was crying!!! She said there is no way that BM didn't know that either, because he needed help getting them over his butt!!! I peeked at the size and they were size 2t shorts. He's in a size 6!!!!!! Yet wouldn't you know, I've NEVER, EVER, EVER seen BM wear the same thing twice. EVER.

(And as one more side note....BM just went to Vegas last month, and recently a long weekend trip to see a boy toy out of state. Yet she couldn't pay $100 for gymnastics nor refill kids medicine.)