This morning I need to get rid of some SD stuff in my head to create some healthy space. 

I have posted several times in the not to distant past concerning adult SD issues where I explained the background of my step from hell daughter. This weekend there was an out of town memorial for a family member she has not spoken with in years because that is who she is if she is not getting something out of it... you are unimportant not because she is mad. She doesn’t really have anything to do with her fathers family, not because anyone has done anything to her, she uses people and if you aren’t doing and giving she doesn’t have much use for you. She showed up with her four children and loser spouse looking dishelved for sympathy I’m certain. 

I watched as she and her husband barely spoke to others.  Neither she nor the husband spoke to her father. The grandchildren ignored him and I as well and some of these kids are too young to understand there is an issue which indicates to me they were spoken to prior. Also ignored were my two adult children who have never behaved badly toward or done anything to her other than be born to me she has treated them as outsiders from DAY 1. Interesting to note, her two brothers and a wife sat at the table with my two children. I think they understand perhaps and don’t want to end up in the same boat as she in regard to their father.

I actually took pleasure in her behavior knowing that the rest of the family was observing her bad behavior and it definitely is not us. It made me decide one thing if something happens to her father, I will allow her a very short time alone to say goodbye to him, however, she will NOT be permitted to join the rest of the family in the formal goodbye...I, nor would anyone else in the family need to be made uncomfortable because of her. I took her shit quietly for 5 years...she mistook nice for stupid and had NO idea who she was really dealing with...now she is living a life alone, outside of her family in the end she is the biggest loser.