After a long week of arguing and/or ignoring each other, DH and I had a talk Friday night.

He defended himself by saying that the letter was from last August and she doesn't talk crap about me anymore. I doubt that, being that he told me the same thing after I heard their discussion last Easter. So, in my mind, if he was lying then, he's likely lying now, too. But the issue really isn't with his daughter and me. The issue is between DH and me. I have to be able to trust him and believe that he'll do the right thing. If SD begins to meddle in our lives, our marriage, our family, I have to be able to trust that DH will defend what we have. She can think whatever she likes, and nobody can control what she says, but DH has to be the one to stand up for us so she won't drag us down. By not talking with her about her thoughts in the letter, and by not telling me about the letter, he flubbed badly. This could have been the perfect moment for DH to step up for us, and he didn't do it.

With this realization, I made an appointment for DH and I with a counselor for Friday evening. It is my hope that we can get all of our thoughts out in the open and work on our problems. And even though SD isn't the root of the problem, I'm sure she will be mentioned frequently. I suggested to DH that he try to steer SD to a counselor as well. She hasn't been able to get over her parents' divorce 7 years ago and seems to be stuck on her vengeful path. DH confided in me that after his divorce and before we got together, she ran off every other woman that he was seeing. I think counseling would be a great way for her to work through her hang-ups.

So we'll see how it goes. I'm hoping for the best.