Hey all,

I haven't posted much recently and this is my first blog.

I want to ask a question where the answer is likely very simple yet feels complicated.

(I am a SM with SKs and a bio child). Some context. Had step kids for the last 22 years. At times it has been 'good' and at times very toxic. I finally put a boundary around it - which I should have done years ago - but it was always my hope that things would improve. I realised that actually the first 10 years with their mother (with likely undiagnosed BPD) did more damage than could be repaired.