Sometimes I just hate being a step mother!!! I have two sd, ages 12 and 18. I love them as if they were my own. We get along good most of the time. However, the mom resents me. She is remarried, but doesn't seem to think that the step dad is a step parent. Well, anyway, the 12yr old had to have two rods put in her back to correct severe scoliosis. She is in ICU, and at times, only parents can visit. We had a big fight with the hospital. All four of us wanted to visit her, but in twos. Since we were step parents, we were not allowed to see her.