Just because we have a uterus..
Just a major vent here - bear with me.
Why is it that because we have a uterus we are supposed to automatically take care of things like laundry, cooking, appointments etc... So I do take care of these things and usually don't get annoyed. BUT SERIOUSLY - do the words L-I-S-T-E-N mean anything to you DH? Apparently not. So I go out of my way and make appointments for SD's all the time because he won't do it and BM won't do it. I guess I could just opt out and someone would do it...??? Nope. DH hasn't even been to the dentist in 2 years but that's another story.
So, I go out of my way to make all these appointments and I'm also the only one with email because DH doesn't like it *sigh* yet he coaches SD7 so emails must go out. My problem? No matter how many emails, correspondence etc.. he's going to screw it up. I went out of my way to get a 3:30pm and 4pm dentist appt for SD's so they wouldn't miss school. I printed off the schedule. The dentist called and left a voicemail at the house. What does DH do? He checks them out of school at 2pm and ends up at the dentist an hour early.
Is this just a male thing or what? I know as "MOM" we usually do more things like that but "IF I DO IT FOR HIS CHILDREN SHOULD HE NOT LISTEN??" ARGH!!!! I have my own BD15 to deal with - can he just do something? Yes, I am a custodial SM which makes it so much more difficult. It might be a little different if I didn't work but I work longer hours than him AND I work weekends at his store to help out in this shitty economy because he won't have to pay me.
OK, done. Feel a little better. Just wish DH (not dear husband) would open up his ears, use a Qtip or something and LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN!!!
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Just because they listen,
Just because they listen, doesn't mean they hear. Sigh. I've got one just like him. He does have a legitimate hearing problem, thanks to twenty years in the military flying in helicopters older than I am, but even when he's listening, he doesn't always really HEAR me. No matter what I say to him, I am guaranteed one of the following responses... (1) Huh? (2) I don't know. (3) What? Or (4) Sonofabitch, why are you throwing stuff at me?!
♥ Georgia, the un-stepmom ♥
"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)
#4
Ok #4 is my favorite!! Love it Georgia.
Good one
You could tell her it's retirement
I know, I know
You do know what I mean!! You sound just like me :)I agree, I'd find complaint with him if he did it because uterus's do "do it better."
RE:
I agree with littleladym. Even if BF did for some strange reason decide to do the chores by himself, I know they wouldn't be done right and things would get ruined, broken, scuffed, scratched, etc. I know I do it better, and I actually love cleaning. I just don't have enough time to do it as much as I would like.
My problem with BF is that he apparently doesn't process what I'm saying, or it isn't important enough for him to remember. I'll have told him about changes, appointments, reasons why I did things a certain way...but when the time comes that it makes something inconvenient for him because he FORGOT, then it becomes my fault. He actually tries routinely to say that I "make these things up". Yes honey, it's much more likely that I completely made up the fact that I told you about rescheduling that appointment, than the simple fact that you forgot that I told you.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
So been there
So been there Nymh! I always make things up and forget to tell him
My husband does pretty well
His mother taught him how to do all the household stuff so, in her words, "you don't have to marry someone to do it for you like your father did." Ok, so he does some things differently than I do but to me, it's really not worth nit-picking or fighting over...it's just different. The only thing I won't let him do is the laundry but that's because I don't care for how he sorts clothes, and he almost overloaded the washer once (my ex did that too). That is my choice.
I too sometimes hear the "I forgot" but my husband really is a ditz, and he will be the first one to admit it. Sometimes it does get irritating but again, to me it's not worth fighting over. I knew he was this way when I married him. But he is tops when it comes to listening to me...and I mean really listening. So sometimes it's a trade-off. I'm sure we do things to irritate our hubbies, only most of the time they are smart enough not to start WWIII over something so minor.
A little off the subject but..
I am reminded of an incident with my ex-H. We used to grill out a lot in the summer. One day he decided to do all the cooking. He was going to grill steaks and make some steamed broccoli. He put the broccoli on to cook before the steaks. I very gently told him that he might want to wait until the steaks start cooking before cooking the broccoli or else he'll end up with mush. Did he listen to me? No. I kept my mouth shut, I figured he would learn on his own. Of course we ended up with mushy broccoli...he actually said he should have listened to me! DUH