I hate for these little things to get my blood boiling and throw me off track. I was having such a good day today.

Anyway, DH just let me know that he will be making himself available to pick up the kids at ex-in-laws (since BM insisted - she has to leave earlier than planned for her weekend get away).

I'm so mad that MY husband bends over to accomodate her.
Yes, doesn't paint a very pretty picture, does it?
My husband bending. Ex-wife blanktey blanking.

I. Am. Trying. Very. Hard. To. Understand.

Interesting read on Conflict Management Style Resolution - includes a Quiz to test yourself: http://www.lausd-dsp.net/dsp_training/resources/conflict_management.pdf

Why oh why did I marry a Teddy Bear who was married to a Shark?

I. Am. Trying. Very. Hard. To. Understand.

There are two basic dimensions along with it is possible to reason about conflict management: goals and relationships. In other words: how much is important to me the particular issue which caused the conflict, and how much is important to me the relationship with that particular person. There are then various situations:
* issue important and relationship unimportant => strategy is competing
* issue unimportant and relationship unimportant => strategy is avoiding
* issue unimportant and relationship important => strategy is accomodating
* issue important and relationship important => strategy is collaborating
* something in the middle => strategy is compromise

Damnit. Issue unimportant, relationship important.

So I should just accomodate my DH while he accomodates his freaking ex-wife?

Going to calm down now. And try to enjoy what time remains before they all get here.