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Mystery Doctor Bill

stepmom31's picture

Submitted by stepmom31 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 11:35am

So I'm like a detective, my mind doesn't rest until the mystery is solved.

The mystery is:
1. BM claimed she paid for both kids at the doctor, plus medicine.
2. She said she threw the bills out.
3. Insurance claims show for one kid only.
4. When called on it, she immediately found her way to the doctor's office and got 2 bills, one for each kid.
5. DH knows the doctor doesn't always play by the rules and sometimes won't charge, since they've been with this doctor since wayyyy back when DH was pretty young and poor.

I would like to go to the doctor and find out what really went on.

DH, on the other hand, doesn't care. He's already reimbursed BM the $$ she wanted. She threatened to take him back to court over this $40 she said she paid. She has seemed to calm down since she's gotten the $$. DH enjoys these calm moments. Me, not so much. I'm always preparing for the next storm.

Do I try to get DH to go to the doctor? Or do I just leave it alone and stick to solving murders vicariously through Michael Connelly?

Honestly, I can't even sleep well thinking about this, I just want to know the truth. Even if DH never mentions to BM that he visited the doctor to verify her info, I just think that, for future purposes, if there's proof that she lied to us, then DH has an Ace in his hands. If she was telling the truth, then everything is ok, but it doesn't mean I'll trust her any more than I currently minimally do.

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Nightshade's picture

Submitted by Nightshade on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 11:40am

I know how you feel but I would probably let this one go because if the Doc doesn't play by the rules, he is not gonna admit he gave her a receipt for a visit that he didn't charge for.

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Submitted by smonster2 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 11:44am

If you can get your hands on the bill that was not sent to the insurance company, I would submit it to them. This would cause the doctor's office to get involved if they gave BM a fraudelant bill.

I'm like you, I wouldn't be able to stop until I know. I hate being lied to.

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Submitted by stepmom31 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 12:13pm

Doc has already submitted for reimbursement and received his check. DH has given BM 1/2 of the bill not paid by insurance for the claim submitted, as well as his half of the bill NOT submitted to the insurance.

This isn't any anger over a small amount of money. BM can keep the money. It's anger about being lied to and scammed by BM.

I certainly agree that the doc has a good heart and really don't want to get him into any trouble.

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Submitted by skylarksms on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 12:28pm

I understand your unwillingness to let this go.

Our BM lied TO THE JUDGE in court - we had a taped phone conversation where she refused the CO'ed visitation for Easter.

In court, she said that H just never showed up to get his kids.

Even though our lawyer had the tape of her saying he couldn't get them, the lawyer never brought it up to the judge for some reason.

That was 3-4 years ago and I am still pissed about it...AND we won court so it wasn't like it would have made us win MORE - it was just the principle of the thing

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Submitted by smonster2 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 12:57pm

If the doc was "nice" enough not to bill BM for 2 office visits, why was he not "nice" enough to not give a bill to BM so that she could collect money from BD for services she never paid for? Our BM had a doc that would do this also, but my DH would not pay unless the bills went through the insurance company.

This just looks really fishy to me.

It may not be alot of cash, but it is the principal. And once you start letting them get away with small things, it always turns into bigger things.

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Submitted by stepmom31 on Fri, 01/28/2011 - 4:48pm

So...
I'm letting it go.

Yup, it's fishy. But DH doesn't need the stress right now, and doesn't have a spare second to go investigating whether she's lying or not. Plus, there are other stupid insurance issues with the kids' doctor to sort out because she took them again this month without the new insurance cards, and so the old insurance was billed wrongfully. I know it's going to mean a nice bill once the new insurance info is submitted, so I'm just leaving it... let it hit BM when next she's there, or they'll mail the bill to us, either way by avoiding dealing with it now, we get to defer that payment a bit.

At the end of the day, DH has paid his portion as if the 2 kids were charged by the doctor, he's done the right thing. BM gets the extra money. She decided she wanted to spend time with them this weekend, so hopefully she's spending some of the extra $ on them. Sucks that DH can't be the one to get the appreciation for the extra $ she has to be able to take them out or whatever, because believe me, spending $$ on them gets a LOT of appreciation compared to spending hours playing UNO or Monopoly with tonnes of laughter and good cheer, or being taken to the "free" park, or teaching them the rules of capitalization (as has happened the past few weekends with us).

Yup, she'll probably lie many more times again in the future to get her way. I honestly don't know how DH can live with it, and not be outraged by it, and not want to stand up against it. Or maybe he is and it just doesn't show?? I dunno...

Anyway, thanks for hearing me out... much appreciated, didn't have to burden DH with these thoughts of mine, I'm sure he appreciates being saved from having to deal with me and these kinds of issues.