BM replied and I'm not even opening it. :)

So BM replied 2 days later (see previous post http://www.steptalk.org/node/159238), clearly she had to think about it because she usually whips off 1000 word replies within minutes.

And it begins like this: "SM31, you know what SM31? I thought your offering to help was..." and I don't know what comes next because that's all that's in the preview and I have archived that email and won't open it until who knows when because I'm pretty sure there's nothing in there that pertains to the kids.

I am feeling SOOOOO good, about having had my say. And I'm feeling SOOOOO strong now, I even have the will-power to NOT open that reply, because I have honestly cleared my system of giving-a-shit about what she thinks. And, let me tell you, it's such a weight off my chest, I feel like I can finally breathe.

I want to delete it, but that'd make it very easy to not open it, this way I actually have to use my will power, and I'm training myself to focus on the things that matter more, to worry about making my own life better rather than worrying about shit she says or might say.

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Youve got more will power

Youve got more will power than I. I'd open it just for a good laugh.

my dd's sm contacted me the

my dd's sm contacted me the other day via email because when exh and i could not come up with a suitable schedule for the new upcoming school year as well as being able to coordinate his 40 minute drive he created by moving i filed for court.
sm doesnt like it.

i read and responded quite legally to the first email which was basically that i am leaving the decision to the court and that her constant running of the mouth to my exh about me infront of my children was unnecc and overbearing and that she had no legal say in the matter.

i got back no less then a page and a half email filled with from what i could see because i only skimmed it it looked to me to be about how piss poor their finances are blah blah blah.

i deleted that shit. i have zero time to spend on how sm feels. delete it and be done

You will continue to feel

You will continue to feel even stronger if you go all the way with no-contact! I think you've made a great first step here, but if you keep that email in your inbox I'm afraid you will eventually give in and read it (furthering the cycle of anger and a need to respond).

I'm telling you, the no-contact model can be extremely empowering for a stepmom. It eliminates any "back and forth" and BM won't have a "sparring partner" in you anymore. (Trick is, of course, getting the BM to cease sending you any correspondences. That may happen in time -- it worked for me.)