Moved Out
Just thought I'd give a short update. Mr. Kate/BF and I are 'on hiatus or whatever' at the moment, meaning I moved out. A friend of mine needed a sublet as she is moving out of state at the end of the month, so I was pretty fortunate.
Mr. Kate and I specifically discussed that we are allowed to see other people ( I brought that up), though he said that he wouldn't because he loves me. I'm kind of curious to see if that actually happens. We live in a small town (where Mr. Kate grew up) and between that and our circle of gossipy acquaintances, I'm sure I'll find out if he does.
I guess I'm calling this a 'break' instead of a 'break-up' because I really do worry about how he'll handle the possibility of losing his daughter (10 y/o). The big court date is next month and I assume we'll know the results of the paternity test before then (anyone know how long those things take?). BM moved 1.5 hours away last weekend, despite denying she was planning on moving in with her BF and his parents after he got out of jail. Mr. Kate doesn't know what her plans for their daughter are, as there has never been an official custody arrangement, and his daughter is just kind of being shuffled between BM's parents house, BM's house, and Mr. Kate (whenever he can figure out that she is in town). Mr. Kate won't be driving again for at least another 2-3 months, and as I've left, he's not going to see his daughter unless BM decides to drive her down. The last time BM left town, this happened about once a month.
So, there it is.
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Oh I am sorry honey - are you
Oh I am sorry honey - are you hoping to reconcile or have you decided yet? It must be hard to be in the same small town where he grew up if you want to avoid him
It sounds like you may have other friends there to support you though, is that right? good luck and hugs
You know, I'm not sure if I'm
You know, I'm not sure if I'm hoping for one thing or another. I guess you could say I'm still kind of numb.
I am so sorry you are going
I am so sorry you are going through this. I've said it before, its only been 4 months and you have been put through too much. MOVE ON!!! Him and his daughter aren't your responsibility. I know its hard and you have a HUGE heart, but you will find someone that you deserve.
I'm doing OK-for the moment
I'm doing OK-for the moment I'm living with my friend (she'll leave for her out-of-state job this weekend) so I have someone to talk to about everything.
As far as drinking, I'm positive that Mr. Kate would never tell me if he was, especially now that I've moved out, though I know when he drinks that he has a tendency to drunk dial people, so whenever he calls me I'm wary of what I'll hear when I pick up. I would be surprised (though very happy) if he managed to stay sober through all of this.
Good for you. It's tough but
Good for you. It's tough but you seem strong and you come across as having a good head on your shoulders.
I wouldn't worry about whether or not he's seeing someone else and just concentrate on yourself and maybe try to figure out some roundabout way of asking the next guy if he uses a condom when he 'takes care of himself' so you'll know ahead of time!