BM lied on her discovery....
not a big shock but still disappointing. She lied about her employment and all the places she has lived. She denied ever cussing H in front of SS, ever talking bad about him in front of SS...she just denied it all.
Now H and I both expected her to lie...why would she admit to all her ugly behaviors it would make her look bad. Our attorney wants our input on her answers. Our input is just that she lied. We have documentation that we keep that has every single day accounted for the good and the bad from both parties.
Anybody who has been through this please tell me something...anything. Will the truth prevail with our meticulous documentation? Will her true colors shine through? Nobody is perfect but she made herself out to be by saying she had never done any of those things.
For those who do not know this discovery is a result of H trying to get 50/50 physical with SS. She has made no complaints about H other than we live 25 miles from SS school and that H has cussed her in front of SS before. Yes we do live 25 miles from school and yes when they first divorce and she would play her games her and H would both cuss each other in SS presence. Since then though H has moved on and is happy now and wants peace but BM will not let their past go.
Who has been through this legal process and had the BM lie?
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YES!!!!
prove her wrong on just ONE lie and ALL her credibility goes OUT the window.... WOO HOO! Glad she lied! Can you prove all her residences? If not, go to www.peoplefinders.com input her name and pay for a background check...I think they're like $25. It'll prove she's a liar!
BM told DH lots of lies too
and has lied in court too, about badmouthing us to the kids, withholding visitation, etc. I think it might help your DH, though, to admit (in court) to having engaged in verbal fights with BM in front of SS and admit he made a mistake. I think that the judge will see that your DH has matured, realizes that what he did by fighting with BM in front of SS wasn't right, and that he just wants to do the best he possibly can by his son. The BM in my situation complained about such stupid things, like my cooking isn't good enough (she has always eaten out every night). The judge dismissed that one quicker than you could say bob's your uncle. Your BM should be glad that you only live 25 miles from the school and not 3 hours away.
If your DH is granted 50/50 (and I hope he is) you both might want to think about your DH picking up SS for his time at SS's school in the main office (or wherever the pickups are done). That way, your DH doesn't have to see BM, therefore she won't have the opportunity to say nasty things to his face. I know it's a bit of a drive, but it's worth it because he won't have to see BM. It also makes it harder for her to withhold visitation from your DH. Your DH should also make sure the school has a copy of the court order and custody agreement. Unfortunately my DH and I did not know about this option. If we had gone this route, I think it would have been much harder for BM to withhold visitation.
I agree with Sia
Prove her wrong on one thing and it throws everything she says into question whether she is telling the truth or lying.
DH and I went for 50/50 when BM was CP. We had the kids more than she did most weeks. Visitation was EOW at the time and we choose to spend more time when possible. BM behaved in a very inappropriate manner which caused the Judge to grant temporary custody to us for 90 days. During that time there were so many things going on. BM was ordered to a Parenting class, Anger Management and Drug Testing. The only thing she did was the drug test because they physically restrained her and made her do a urine drop. During this whole ordeal, BM had lied on DH and these lies were putting his job in jeopardy. (Both BM and DH worked at the same place. In fact, I did too. That's where I met him). Anyways, DHs superiors got involved based on the many lies that MB told. We were able to show proof of all of the documentation that we had kept through the years and in the end it turned out to be her downfall. BM was later fired from the job, but insisted in court that DH was the reason that she was losing her job! ??? DHs only involvement with her losing her job was in defending himself and keeping his head off the chopping block because of her lies.
BM lied on her financial affidavit. I'm talking MAJOR lies. She said that she spent 80 per month on haircuts for SS. Thing is that DH took SS to get his haircut every 2 weeks and it only cost us $20 for the month. She said that she spent $300 a month on gifts for birthday parties! Yea right. No kid is that freakin popular. Even if she were spending $50 per gift, they were not going to 6 parties a month and she WASN'T spending $50 per gift. THere were numerous other lies told. Luckily for us we had it all documented and were able to provide the information to our lawyer and the GAL during the homestudy. It proved beneficial to us.
Good Luck. Keep us posted, but be prepared for a long fight unless of course your BM loses her mind in the courtroom like ours did. In that case it will be over lickety split.
Step Mother's Motto this week is:
You don't have to LOVE me, you don't even have to LIKE me... But you will RESPECT me.
Yes Yes
Please keep us all posted. We start custody evaluation for 50/50 soon and the more we have to make BM look bad the better.
S1S
Sometimes it isn;t about making BM look bad. Some BMs such as our own do that perfectly well. If a homestudy is done, you just be you! Don't be afraid to be normal, they want to see you in your normal atmosphere. This goes a long way. The homestudy was also a saving grace for us. At the time we were 3 ppl (DH, BD andmyself) living in a 2/1 condo which made it 5 ppl in a 2/1 when the skids visited. BM was in a 3/3 townhome with just her and the two kids. I thought they would look at the kids having their own space and rooms. NOT! They looked at the WHOLE picture, how involved as parents we were with school work, teacher contact, medical appointments, home environment, you name it. If it affected the child they looked at it. In the end, it showed a lot more in our favor than BMs. Why because they were looking at the "Best Interest of the Kids." There are many different aspects to consider, just be a good parent or the best that you are capable of in the situation.
Step Mother's Motto this week is:
You don't have to LOVE me, you don't even have to LIKE me... But you will RESPECT me.