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IGNORE, IGNORE - we’re getting together

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Submitted by step-out on Wed, 08/07/2024 - 9:47am

Come on! I have mainly been ignoring the "group text" messages. Look what I did, here's a picture of me doing something amazing, But.... nope, DH says we're going to get together this weekend which, unfortunately I can't step away from without causing a big scene. How do I IGNORE, IGNORE.. if SD is right in front of my face hugging Dear Daddy and muttering Love messages every ten minutes? Ugh, my gut is already twisting thinking about it. 

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CajunMom's picture

Submitted by CajunMom on Wed, 08/07/2024 - 9:58am

Medical issue. Covid. Took a test, positive. Oops. Bad test. (One of the positives of Covid...gives us an out. No one wants Covid. LOL)

Minimize time in the central living area. Take phone calls (get your girls lined up). Excuse yourself for a nap. Take a walk for exercise.  Look at your phone often. Lots of bathroom breaks. If you have a hobby, fake a project with a deadline.  Keep funny thoughts about the situation in your life. (I love laughing internally at the "show.") Run an "important" errand. Have a friend drop by.

Above all, do NOT let her know she bothers you. Give that famous Stepford Wife smile and head tilt to throw her off. 

Best to you. 

 

 

 

 

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Submitted by AgedOut on Wed, 08/07/2024 - 10:27am

damn shame you might start feeling ill a day or two beforehand.

2 Days before: "is it warm in here?" "No, I feel like I'm overheating.". "I'm really tired today. Just feel off"

Day before: "I've got a nagging headache."  "I think I might be coming down with something." "this sucks, I hate getting sick in the summer" "hope I feel better tomorrow" 

Day of: "Hon, I'm sick. My bones feel just heavy and my headaches back" "I think I'm going to go back to bed" then right before he goes "do you think I should go to urgent care tomorrow? just to make sure I'm not contagious?" "have fun. I'm heading back to bed"

 

 

 

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Submitted by Lillywy00 on Wed, 08/07/2024 - 1:21pm

Pickup an extra work shift ... tell him it's remote meeting with cameras on AND no background noise (so he can't intrude on your meeting to see what you're really up to)

Most men cannot compete with or challenge your employers .... if they rely on your income

Book a self-care appointment then run a guilt trip (like the guilt trips those skids try to run to manipulate you into doing things you don't want/can't do) if he tries to complain

Worse comes to worse book an online therapy appointment....at least that will give you 50 minutes to yourself