So my 14yo step son is in a residential facility trying to get a grip with his anger towards his mother. She has walked in and out of his life for the better part of 9 yrs. She has struggles with addictions of many kinds and has had a revolving door on her bedroom for years. Now she magically is all better and somehow coming out of this smelling like a rose. I am now being told that I am not his parent and need to step back. I feel like I don't belong in my own family and I am not sure if I am more hurt or pissed.