This is what life looks like after a 14yo takes a swing at his dad

And his mother refuses to let him come live with him.

Ss14's room was stripped. Not a stitch of clothing, hair gel, books, electronics. Nothing but a bed, empty dressers and shelves and desk.

I was the lucky one to drop him at school on the morning after. Ss mentioned there was basketball practice. I let him know he wouldn't be attending.
He also tried to apologize on the ride to school. I told him that that was a nice thiught, but there are certain things you do that don't get dismissed by saying sorry and he has a long uphill battle to earn back his father and my respect.

That night he came home to his empty room. He mentioned to his dad, "um... I have no clothes,,,". Dh just said "yes".

Last night we were doing faminy pics. On the ride home he asked about Christmas. We let him know he was going to his mothers for Xmas eve. He said he kinda wanted to stay with us. I just turned around and said "well that's interesting because two days ago you wanted to live with your mom". Dh is hard of hearing so he never knows half the shit that the kid says.

This morning, we are heading out if town to visit some of my family. Ss had nothing to pack. Dh "gave in", handed him a plastic bag and told him to grab another set of clothes from the packed up bags.

Kid is getting a huge wake up call. Can't wait to drop him at his mom's Friday -wish he was spending thanksgiving with her as well so he can see the difference between his lush family centered life he lives with us vs her drug dealing single life.

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I wish biological parents

I wish biological parents took parenting this serious. We certainly wouldn't have a population of entitled brats.

I take it seriously and it's

I take it seriously and it's exhausting to do so. On the bright side, I now have my first iPad - which I took from dd13 for not flowing the rules.

Kids. Lock down. It's a good thing.

Amen, and no social security

Amen, and no social security in our future to speak of, because everything is too difficult for them to do.

Sad thing is, we've gone

Sad thing is, we've gone through this before. Bm lived with he gf and gf's patents at the time. Dh packed SS up, we made the hour drive, bm botched that dh was abandoning SS (lmfao - she left eye SS was 5) and then she told SS to go home with dh.

I'm sure she spun a story about how she couldn't have him live with her there since it wasn't her home.

Now vm lives in her own apartment (not sure who pays for it) so ss14 thought it was worth a try to escape to BM's.

Um no. She doesn't want the responsibility, cost, etc.

Hopefully he understands the reality now and will shape his little ass up. No more shoulder checking me with the baby at the top of the stairs, no more taking a swing at his father, sorry if we took your $$ since you told us you would be quitting scouts, just days after we purchased your uniform, paid your fees and you told us you thought you'd like the program. Sorry you little spoiled brat.

Oh - and this "fat bitch" and "dh, who is sm's puppet" will remember how it all went down.

You've got a long fucjin way to climb.

You might consider taking it

You might consider taking it one step further. The kid was angry. Went into total meltdown with pure rage kicking in. While meant to hit his father and he did mean to knock you with his shoulder , IMO he may have been so angry he failed to realize the consequences of that move he made at you...you ad the baby could have tumbled/flown right down those stairs. Hitting his father, though stupid, is not as serious as what his angry could have done to you and baby.

Kid needs to see and realize this. His one act of FU SM , could have been a permanent irreversible action with life long consequences for you and that baby. I'd have the kid go through angry management classes. The kid needs to understand his anger and violence due to his anger is much more dangerous to him (and others) than losing a few hundred bucks. His actions because he couldn't control his anger could have very well cost him his little sister on those stairs.