My life is a soap opera!

Last night, we pick up SS13 after his weekend visit with BM. This was his first visit after the hearing and his first visit since she found out I was pregnant. She spent the weekend telling SS that the baby was not his blood, that his dad will spend even LESS time with him once the baby gets hear, etc, etc.

We get a text 15 min before pick up time stating that DH is losing SS because of all his lies and broken promises. This, of course, sets DH off, but he simply replies that he doesn't need parenting advice from the mother that's been gone for 7 years, but thanks anyway. It goes back and forth a bit through pick up time.

SS13 gets in the car like nothing is going on, denies any knowledge of the text messages and we drive home. SS13 decides to go outside to talk to DH while he is doing some work on the vehicles and begins with his, "do you love me dad, are you mad at me". And DH goes off. He's already wound up because of BMs BS and it turns into a "Do you want to go live with her, since she's such a good mom". His answer was, "I don't know".

So DH called his bluff and told him they were packing his stuff up and he was dropping him off. SS13 played along and helped pack his stuff. We let BM know we were coming and drove the hour to BM's home.

BM comes out and says, "I can't believe you're doing this to our son. I can't believe you're just going to abandon him" - funny coming from the person who has been out of his life for 7 years... DH responds by saying that there are consequences to her actions and now she can play the parent. Then she says, "fine, I'll go file the papers tomorrow and get you for child support" (again, from a woman that doesn't pay a dime to support SS). Then I even hear her say she'll sue us BOTH for child support (sorry, honey, I may send your kid to private school, but you're not getting any of my money). DH replies, "Fine, go ahead, it will cost me a lot less than it does now to raise him". Then he said that he saw a change in her eyes...

DH told SS13 to decide what he wanted to do. SS kept saying he was confused and he couldn't choose. So DH, said, "fine, grab your last two bags and I'll see you on Friday". Then BM says that she'll decide and for SS to get his stuff and go home with Dad.

DH wanted SS to hear BM say that.

BM and DH said that they just wanted to spend more time together, boohoo, boohoo. On the way home, we explained to SS that BM says one thing to him and then does not follow through. She may tell him she wants him to live with her, but she doesn't. She may tell him she wants to spend more time with him, but when we offer, she turns us down. She had the opportunity in mediation and in front of the judge to ask for more time: an extra day during the week, an extra week, spring break - BUT SHE DIDN'T. All she asked for was not to have to drive the entire hour to pick him up for her visits when school was not in session. We explained that this request actually reduced her 48 hour visit by about 4 extra hours.

DH thinks it set in. I think it was just a waste and BM got to stir things up and rile DH up, like she enjoys doing. She was even texting this morning and saying that DH broke the restraining order last night (even though the order is against her and DH did not break the order).

I have NEVER experienced such drama in my life. I am drained!