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Submitted by step off already on Wed, 05/21/2014 - 10:39pm

It all started about 6 weeks ago when bm decided to call dh one morning and profess her love and that she missed him - Nevermind the fact that she left him 9 years prior to be a lesbian, never mind that he has a restraining order against her and despises her for everything she has out ss14 through, never mind that dh and I are married, with our own baby.

So dh hung up on her. She called back, I answers (surprise bm- I work from home!) and told her not to call my husband.

10 minutes later dh receives a text: I want to fuck. I want dis.
8 minutes later: sorry wrong person.

Dh was already alerting the police that she was breaking the RO and clearly goig crazy.

10 days later she sends a Saturday night drunken text telling dh he can have full custody. She gives up (she only has eowe as it is) blah blah blah.

She acts as if nothing happend when he asks her the following week if she'll be exercising her visitation, "why wouldn't i?"

She fought hard for two court ordered phone. ALS each week where she is allowed to break the RO and call dh to speak with ss. She did not call Monday and she did not call tonight. She has also spent the last two years since this order has been in place (funny how it correlates with our marriage) that it is ss14 who MUST call her. Meh will ask to call during. Her window if time but it is usually so sad and pathetic and consists of him calling 5-17 times and leaving her vms that we strongly discourage it. We remind him that it is her responsibility. And if she's not calling she's probably jut busy.

Since they haven't spoken in so long, we encouraged him to call her and leave a vm letting her know he as looking forward to their next call next Monday. He left her three messages.

I think this is awful and sad

Dh says they've gone through this over and over and over.
Me will be meeting with a counselor for ss next week. There are no current "issues" with ss but this poor kid. His mother is a pos and it affects him in every way- especially as he starts to interact with girls - he's kind if the stalker / care taker / pleaser.not good

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Submitted by claudia101 on Wed, 05/21/2014 - 11:06pm

I would tell ss what's going on. Lay that poo all on the table. She needs what you can keep together. It doesn't would appear that her being a major part of his life is the best enthusiasm for ss. On the off chance that my slips mother told my hubby that, he most likely wouldn't let me know. He Infact would presumably escape me and still overlook her or let her know no.
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Submitted by step off already on Wed, 05/21/2014 - 11:34pm

Bm just showed up for visitation 2 years ago. Prior to that she was Mia but when she saw me in the picture she wanted to play mommy.

She's been extremely consistent for two years but she's done. She's back to her usual ways. She doesn't really care. She likes to try and one up dh but it is not possible.

Summer time she is supposed to have him two weeks on/ off with dh. She probably doesn't want the responsibility so she's skirting out.

Ss has also told is that she's been drink in recent calls and throwing up drink on recent visits. Me he still sees the novelty of visiting with the mommy who left when he was 5 (mostly). He feels sorry for her and eats her Crap. It's sad. M
Soon he may be able to fully see her for what se is but right now hs till wants to hang on to what little bit of mommy he's ever had 1 which is minimal.