Another night at scouts
Ssstb14 usually tags along to ds9 and 11's scout meetings on Monday night. At the beginning of the year in September, he was given the chance to join. Even though he had friends in the older troop and knew we'd be coming every week, he chose not to. This was fine with me as I was tired of signing him up for things, him not participating and then bm not bringing him in her weekend because "he didn't like it any wAy and we made him do it".
The last two visits the scout master gas been hitting dh up to help and also asking ss to join. Tonight, before the meeting starred dh asked me to bring ss over to the scout master to ask about signing up. I talked with him for a few minutes bug ultimately ss told the leader he didn't want to participate.
During the meeting the leader talked some more with dh and encouraged ss to join. Apparently, ss really pissed dh by putting his earphones on while he was speaking to them.
Long story short. Dh is pissed. Dh tells ss he's a rude asshole and that he raised him better than that. On the way home, ss decided he wants to join.
I chime in.
You need to think about this as it's a big commitment. You had the chance 6 months ago to sign up and you told the leader tonight that you didn't wAnt to join. This is a commitment that you'll need to stick to. You have football coming up and high school and you need to think about next fall when you'll have football practice till 5, homework and then a scout meeting. Plus you'll need to mAke sure your mother brings you on your weekends. You need to think about it. Talk to your friends and get a better idea about what it's all about.
I was all for it earlier tonight but he stated he didn't want to do it. In the fall when I asked him if he wNted to go to the info meeting he was more concerned about getting a uniform then understanding what he was looking in to.
I've said it over and over but I'm tired if putting this boy into things and watching him pout or tell his mom we make him. As far as I'm concerned, he can watch my kids do things for the rest of his life unless he puts the effort into signing himself up and getting it worked out.
Tonight it seemed like he was just wanting to do it so his dad would stop being mad at him for his disrespectful behavior.
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I understand your point and
I understand your point and agree, but at the same time, a 12/13 y.o. boy doesn't really have the appropriate tools to tell an insistent parent that, no, he really isn't interested. I know it's not your responsibility as you're not his parent, but maybe next time you could step in and speak with dad privately. Or maybe even do that now. Find out what dad's motivation is for pushing so hard for this and pointing out just how time consuming football really is. Yeah ss was out of line with the whole ear buds thing, but, I dunno, I feel like DH was out of line, here, too.
Ss is the one who wants to
Ss is the one who wants to play football. Dh thinks it's going to be too intense for him and he's not going to be able to take it. But for some reason ssstb14 thinks he's a football stud. Maybe because he plays catch with his mom and she tells him he's so good.
Who knows. Last time we signed him up for flag football, he outed and said he didn't want to play and didn't know how. Now. Two years later he thinks he's a star.
Dh could also care less if ss did scouts. The scout leader just sees dh and ss there on many of the Monday night meetings and is trying to recruit him.