DH and I have "discussed" having another child together, which is crazy, I know as we already have a large family.

He has SS14 and I have DD13, DS11 and DS9 and together we have baby girl 8 mo. DH has always wanted a large family but blew it when he started with BM.

Anyway, we are very solid. The kids all love the baby immensely. Financially we can afford it, even without any of the other parent's paying child support. Right now DH stays home with baby, i work from home and my three bios spend about 40% of the time with their dad, but we are always at their activities. SS spends Eowe with BM.

OK, so here's where it all gets interesting.

DH would like another boy now. He's asked the kids what they think about another baby - just probing and joking with them. All say YES! ... except SS. SS doesn't thin we should have another one. I tell all the kids, thanks for their opinions, no matter what they are, but adding to our family will be the sole decision of DH and me. And once they're married, they can make the same decisions with their partner.

DH was shocked that SS didn't want another baby in the house, especially since he LOVES (and I' mean crazy Loves) his baby sister. So he's brought it up to him a few other times and received the same response.

I spoke with MIL yesterday and she shared something with me that made it all make sense. BM told SS that he is the "most special" because he is the son. The daughter isn't as special and SS is the only real son DH has.

DH wants another son. And he wants to play baseball and football and do all the things that he never could do with SS because of his financial situation, work hours and lack of any assistance from BM. (Of course he wants baby girl in ballet and gymanstics and piano and everything too, lol).

Just more insight into my life...