Im in my 20s, never been married, no kids. I am lucky enough that SO has agreed to have children with me. I feel for you, a few years ago i dated a man with two kids as well, he did not want to have anymore children and we ended up breaking up. Having kids is a big issue, and if the two of you are going to have disagreement about it, the conflict will end up trickling down into other aspects of the relationship. Or at least thats what I have found to happen. I feel that its an issue thats too big to not make the relationship fail.

I dont think that Skids are enough if you really want to be a mother. As a step parent you dont have say in all the rules, behavior problems, what sports skids will play if any, basically its like being the small voice in the back of someones head that is never or rarely listened to. Then you are expected to spend money on skids while being reminded your not their mother, bear financial brunt of Child Support and watch BM (often they make your life hell) drive a nicer car than you and bitch that they are broke.

Never let anyone stand in the way of your dreams, goals, or anything that you want. Love is blind, but in 50 years from today do you want to be in the nursing home wishing you had children to come visit you?

My BIL never wanted children, he married someone he had been with for years. They divorced four years later when she realized he "was serious" when he said he didn't want children.

If this is a deal breaker for you - and for most of us it is - settle it BEFORE you marry. It is not fair to either of you.