I haven't been on here in a couple of years. My skids finally realized in 2012 how crazy and abusive their BM was and have now refused to have a real relationship with her. My SD refuses to speak to her and my SS will only do it every once in a while so she doesn't go completely crazy. During this time, we have remained on a courteous basis with BM's sister and her mother. We invite them to our home for the kid's birthday parties and even take BM's niece on trips to the zoo and other places. Over the past year, we have noticed that the aunt has stopped asking my DH to see the children and just asks my 14 year SD directly. My SD knows that certain things need to be run by her dad and she thinks it's weird that her aunt keeps doing this. She has even sent applications to my SD for different schools that she knows my DH needs to fill out and make the final decision on.

We are sure that BM has been filling their heads with nonsense, but BM lies on everyone including her mother and sister and has even physically assaulted her. But we are tired of the disrespect. BM, her sister, and their mother have always acted like my DH is not a real parent, even though he has pretty much raised these kids since birth with very little help from the BM. Just last month, the aunt called my SS and pretty much invited herself to our house for his birthday party and never asked DH....just showed up at our door. We also recently found out she has been feeding information to the BM about what we are doing with the kids. Other members of their family practically stalk my SD on Facebook and are clearly looking to see if anything negative is happening with them. It's gotten so bad, my SD deleted her Facebook and Instagram page.

We are at the point now where we want to ban these people from our home and want to tell the kids. We have no problem if their aunt or grandmother want to see them (which their grandmother NEVER does) and picks them up, but we don't want them coming into our home again.

Are we being too sensitive?