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Revelations and Glimmers of hope come from Denial of Emergency Custody Hearing and need to Vent

spittenfire's picture

So yesterday my DH tried to obtain Emergency Temporary Custody of SS due to BM neglect, behavior, and criminal charges from this last month. Well the judge totally shot down the motion refusing to hear it. However we gleaned important information in the process.

1. The GAL told the Judge that the BF has a open case with DFS relating to Him and his Daughter
2. The BM tried to wriggle out of the Court Date that was set for Contempt motions by stating SS had a counseling appointment
This led DH who know she had taken him to 1 appointment to call the center because now we had a name because the Judge asked. When DH requested this info it was always, Ill get you the records and info later. Well DH called and spoke with the CEO of the center who explained they do walkin screenings. At the time of screening there is no "treatment" or "client relationship" created. So they were within thier bounds to see SS without investigating Legal Custodians. However if treatment was recommended usually within a treatment or 2 they find out if there is another parent and then they request documentation of custody to proceed with Treatment. So here is the timeline of events....

Day 1: BM commits felonies with SS (theft of BF's auto, guns, personal belongings) and flees (remember no license)
Day 1: BF files police report reporting all the stolen items
Day 2: Wreck the auto she stole while SS is behind her SS said he was not worried because she meant to do it, BM and SS return to BF
Day 2: BF calls xCounty Sherriff, they advise him to bring her in
BF loads up BM and SS and takes BM to sherriff to be questioned and then arrested
BM signs waiver releasing SS to BF care, does not call DH
DH recieves anonymous text telling him SS at Sherriffs office.....results in us getting SS for nex 2 nights and take him to school on Mon
Day3: (Sunday) BM is bailed out no call to SS to let him know she is OK
Day 4: DH takes SS to school
DH goes to pick SS up from school and BM is there with Counselor and Principal and she was acting really wierd and anounced SS wants to
stay at his grandpas
Day 5: SS not in School BM text us he has Counselor appointment

So what we learn is that ss was recommended treatment for Adjustment disorder, that BM reported he was crying alot lately and was not getting along with 4 year old SD (not yet his step sister but hey) SS reported he missed his dad. so the diagnosis is Adjustment Disorder with signs of depression.....and BM reports the precipitating factor as the seperation and Divorce. WTF that was 5 years ago, He is 9, and this is the first time he has ever had to "seek treatment"

Perhaps dumbass BM the problem is the fact that you up and moved your son in with BF, SS despises BF daughter and is forced to Share a room with her, then he is witness to your criminal ways, watches you wreck a truck on purpose, goes back to BF then the BF has you arrested and When DH shows up to Get SS BF is shoving SS stuff in a garbage back going on and on about "she is never coming back here, how f'in stupid is she"yada yada yada. Then after all that you take him right back to that situation after probably your Disney Dad Guilt ridden father enables you once again by bailing your sorry criminal ASS out of jail! And all the while SS thought he was going to get to stay with his father however now even his phone converstaions are being monitored and now he is being drug into counseling so you can try to play MOTFY! :sick:

Rant over......

However we do believe that he is suffering some depression. We ourselves have witness the ease of crying and some disturbing self comforting behaviors. So DH is going to contact DFS and let them know that there is emotional distress that the child is going through, and he is going to consent to treatment and be at that first treatment session and be as involved as he can so he can relate what he believes are the precipitating factors. BM is gonna go through the roof when DH shows up to that appointment. How many wanna bet she stops taking him then.....

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spittenfire's picture

Uggghhhh that wont happen. Trying to comminucate with this BM is impossible, literally every word out of her mouth regarding SS and his conditions or treatments or appointment are lies. We have proof of the over and over and over again, and her doing this is what has led to her being investigated by CPS for child abuse and neglect. And in her mind it is always DH fault. That is the world BM lives in. So the best hope is to always go to the source and get involved so there is at lease one sane parent trying to lookout for the best interest of this child. And low contatct with this BM is the only way to go.

furkidsforme's picture

Why would anyone think a BM who stole her boyfriends truck, guns, and money and took off, then later wrecks it on purpose and returns to the boyfriend, who then in turn has her arrested but they are still together could POSSIBLY be "reasoned with"?

Seriously ripleyv2?