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Am I trying to be too accomodating??

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Submitted by spittenfire on Tue, 10/28/2014 - 10:57am

Quick history...

BM agreed to joint legal/joint physical where DH took over custodial parent in July.

BM did not have contact with SS for 2 months.

Then BM Dad arranged with DH for SS to see BM and him at local restaurant for 1.5 hours. Now BM is ordered to arrange all changes in visitation through OFW which she refuses to do. DH told BM dad that was the only exception he was allowing so SS could see BM was at least still alive.

BM being investigated for Public Assistance Fraud

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Submitted by spittenfire on Thu, 10/09/2014 - 12:24pm

So DH gets a letter in the mail stating they are investigating the receipt of BM public assistance benefits. That it is the investigators understanding that DH has custody of SS. He is requesting that DH confirm or correct this understanding and provide detailed information of how long SS has been in my DH custody for longer than 50% of a week, and to what extent does DH provide for SS needs?

BM has not seen SS in 2 months.... next move?

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Submitted by spittenfire on Tue, 09/30/2014 - 2:10pm

So since DH won primary custody at the end of July he has only heard from BM 1 time, and nothing since. She requested to switch days on OFW and he replied but have never heard anything from her since. She is supposed to pick SS up everyother weekend. Her Dad did call BM when SS was with him and he got to talk to BM for a few min a month ago.

We never expected BM to drop from the face of the earth. So now DH concern is what she is up to, where is she living, what is our move if she does show up one weekend when we have no idea what has been going on.

Advice?

I need some advice please.

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Submitted by spittenfire on Wed, 08/13/2014 - 7:29am

Quick Background..... exh is believed to be NPD by DD12 therapist
He works out of town frequently
he has spent lat 2 years paying little attention to DD's (according to them and what they have told therapist)
DD15 is my biodaughter not exh, but he has raised her since she was 2.5 yrs old, but she is not part of our legal custody agreement and I retain full custody

Losing my job AND readjusting my Parenting Plan

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Submitted by spittenfire on Tue, 08/12/2014 - 12:15pm

So yesterday all employees at the facility I work for was told that our doors will be closing on October 31st. This will display 323 employees. Me being one of them.

Now I have 2 girls DD15 and DD12 and they go to school in town A. I live 30 min away in town B but work in town A. So when me and ex divorced 50/50 custody was easily the best option and exh became the address for educational purposes. In MO that makes him custodial parent.

BE does not show for first visitation big surprise!

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Submitted by spittenfire on Mon, 08/11/2014 - 8:18am

Well bms every other weekend was supposed to start on friday. On Thursday she logged on to OFW finally.... did not read the message do had sent her about how to request a change or extra time from the calendar. Did not view the expense reimbursement request ect. All she did was send Dh a message requesting to change her visitation from Friday through sunday to Saturday through Monday.

WOW my DD12 Therapist informs me that she believes my EXDH to be NPD!

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Submitted by spittenfire on Fri, 08/08/2014 - 10:02am

During course of her appointment the therapist always chats with me a few minutes before to see how DD has been etc. I told her she has done really well with her behavior chart the last couple of weeks while we were on vacation. I told her I was worried about when she went back to EXH though as he is usually gone almost the whole day due to to many business commitments. She aske me "well what did you expect" I was taken aback.... i asked what she meant she then said "isnt he self centered and everything about him all the time" I was speechless.

Well we went to Court!!! And wow finally my DH is Custodial Parent!!!!!

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Submitted by spittenfire on Fri, 07/25/2014 - 12:58pm

Well went to court. BM showed up without a lawyer. Went in and threw a fit to the judge about how she doesnt have a lawyer and my DH was illegally withholding SS yada yada yada. Judge told BM that this court date has been set since January and she has had the last 4 months since her lawyer withdrew to hire another attorney that they would continue to have the hearing.

She was a hot mess yall!! OMG.... so the GAL took her to a room to see if they could work out a settlement.

Only 2 more days!! Need to Vent

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Submitted by spittenfire on Wed, 07/23/2014 - 10:11am

For christs sake the BM just will not accept when my DH says he is not doing something he is not doing it.....

She is insisting that DH bring SS to her to stay overnight for a camping trip. He told her not tonight as 1. She has court scheduled early thursday morning and 2. He has to much going on and can not make it down there. That they could work something out for friday afternoon.

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