:? I struggle on how to deal with issues from two different exes. My husband has 3 children from his first marriage. They are 18, 16, and 11. While I was dating my husband, the children would come over and visit with their dad on his weekends. Their mother was nice to me at that time too. They lived a little over an hour away too. Well, after my husband and I married, the children stopped coming over, and now their mom tells them what a deadbeat dad there dad is. She has even went as far as to tell them that she wished my husband and I would drop dead. My husband pays his childsupport every month like it is ordered, and helps anyway he can. We make sure that we get them what they want for birthdays and Christmas. His oldest son graduated this past school year. He never got an invitation to the graduation, nor any photos. He was will to help pay for all of them, but the ex will not let him know anything going on with the children. The children have been so brainwashed, that they keep things from their dad. If he did not call them, then he would never hear from them. Half the time they do not even answer the phone either. I had to call the school to get the information on the graduation. We went to graduation, and I was told my his ex's mom that I did not belong there. The children refuse to come see their father and have anything to do with him. I have done everything I can to be nice to them, and even make sure that my husband keeps contact with them. This is so heartbreaking, but there is nothing I can do.

The second ex, in which he has a 9 yr. old by is just plain crazy! She thinks that she has to be in control of everything. She calls my husband at work just to chat about things that are not of importance. My husband has already told her not to call him unless it is an emergency at work. She does anyway. She told my husand that I am never to call or text her, but it is ok for her to call or text me when she feels like it. We make plans on the days that we have his daughter, and she will come up with a reason as to why we can't get her. She tells her daughter that I don't want her and her dad to be friends and that she has to keep a lawyer on hand because of me. When things don't go her way, she threatens to take my husband to court. She has been divorced from my husband over five years. They were divorced a year before I meant my husband. Last year, she wanted something out of the attic she said she forgot. My husband gave it to her. Well this year, she thought of something else at the house she wanted, and I told my husband no. It was a planter hanging on our back wall. It has been there the whole time, but now she wants it back. I told my husband that we are not giving her anything else out of our house because she wants it. She threatened to take him to court and take away his visitations and for more money just because we would not give her the planter. She is absolutely crazy! She tells her daughter that she can have, or do what ever she wants and whenever she wants. Well, that is not how it works at our house. She told my husband that our rules should be exactly the same as hers. I also put my foot down and told him that she does not run our house! She chose to cheat on my husband and leave him for another man. She married the other man, then he left her and she wanted my husband back. Four months later she met another guy and married him six months later, but still tries to reap havick on my marriage.

She is a huge thorn in my side. She is nice to me, then she is totally opposite! I am beginning to think she is bipolar. She has major mood swings. She tells lies, and has ways to make others believe her. She is so manipulative and tries to use their daugther to get her way with my husband. I love my stepdaughter, and do a lot with her when she is over. She is over quite often. Her mother will call and ask if we will take her for a little while. Even on her time. When my stepdaughter is with her mom, she is left at home with her older sister, or left to roam around the neighborhood. My stepdaugther says that her mother doesn't do a lot with her, and that is one reason she loves coming to our house.

I am so tired of his 2nd ex. She lives about 5 minutes away. She is always crossing boundaries to try to cause problems, and generally does. My husband doesn't always stand up to her. He doesn't want to go to court, so he tries to keep peace. Peace is driving me crazy when it comes to her. I want to make plans, and run my own household without her having her say so in it. She can run her own, but needs to stay out of mine!!!!

Frustrated!!!