What to do

My husband and I have been together for 3 years when I first got with him he had a two-year-old. Since we've been together we have two boys of our own. I don't treat his daughter any different than I treat my own boys this is where my problem lies my husband's family treats his little girl like a princess she doesn't get no discipline she gets whatever she wants she does whatever she wants and gets away with it unless she's at home with me she takes on her brother who is to she teases him she hits him And she blames him for everything when it comes to his family they have nothing to do with my boys they say it's because they're too little or because they can't hold them all the time but when it comes to her they will take her at any minute my husband on the other hand also treat better than he does our boys then to add to it he doesn't help me out with all three kids at home or anywhere else I don't know what to do

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Miss, do you think next time,

Miss, do you think next time, you could please use periods at the end of your sentences? Makes it a little difficult to read.

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First thing you do is you

First thing you do is you take care of your own two bio children. Your husband daughter has two parents. Dad takes care of her from sun UP until she goes to bed. Not you.

IF his daughter is mean and ugly to your bio's....you tell her to stop.

What is the current custody arrangement?

I think in families with

I think in families with several boys and one girl- she becomes the princess. I often hear stories from my son about of my daughter is treated like a pretty princess (she is the only girl and 3 boys and they have another on the way). The fact that she also comes from the "broken" family will make some people give her special treatment.

All of the above is crap IMHO. However, you can't control other people. You can only control what happens in your house and your reaction to them. I don't know what that needs to look like for your family but it may be seeing the in-laws less. It may mean that you stand up in front of them when she does something wrong- discipline appropriately and if they dare to contradict you simply tell them that you and your DH are the parents and they need to sit down and back off. You are handling it.

You have to make expectations known to your SD by both you and your husband and he needs to actually follow through. If he needs a parenting class because he isn't getting it- FINE- sign up for a parenting class together. There is nothing wrong with that.