So BM asked in the temporary order that she always gets xmas eve and BF gets xmas day at 9am. Both attorneys sent this info to the judge for the temp order that we should get in the next day or two. Anyway, BF emailed BM on Sunday and asked that she drop FSS1 off at BF's parents house on xmas at 9am. (They are supposed to meet about half way but BM "passes" the grandparents home on the way to our meeting point so it not like its out of her way - its less driving for her.) BM emailed back and said - since you are not doing family xmas until New Years Day, can I drop baby off at 1 or 2 pm so we can visit friends first. WTF! She picked 9am not BF and he agreed to it and we all ready made plans with his parents to do brunch with them before we go to my parents house later that day.

Last year, baby was about a month old and at almost the last minute BM said BF could have baby for a couple hours on xmas day. BF has to drive out of his way by about 30 miles one way to pick baby up and he was afraid she would change her mind so we did not dare tell the family that baby was coming. Plus BM did not even feed him before we got him so baby pretty much screamed the whole way to grandparents house.

Here's the kicker - BF asked BM why baby does not wear a hat and coat since it is winter. This past Sunday it was 11 degrees with a wind chill of 10 below and BM did not bring baby a jacket to pick him up. She brings a crib blanket and "cover" him with. BM explanation for not putting a coat and hat on the baby is that he goes from a warm house to a warm car. So what! So do we as adults and we dress for the weather. This is so crazy! IMO it is a form of child abuse or neglect not to dress you child for the weather.