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Submitted by SMto2 on Sat, 01/18/2025 - 8:08pm

Hey, all! It's been a while since I posted. Things remain where they were in that I'm pretty much disengaged with my adult SSs 30 and 29, and DH does all the gift-buying and coordinating gatherings, with dinner at a restaurant for birthdays (we pay for all) and Father's Day and Christmas Eve hosted at our lakehouse, where I try to do the minimum amount possible, realizing my own DSs are part of the mix and it's their holiday, too. This mainly applies to SS30, his wife, and 2 SGDs.

Maybe we have to give it a go every once in a while to remind us?

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Submitted by SMto2 on Mon, 07/22/2024 - 12:02pm

This is what I said in response to a comment last year on my blog where I was so happy to have stopped our annual vacation with SS30, SDIL29, and SGDs 11 &  9 where DH & I pay for everything, do everything, and they don't lift a finger. (I also have SS29, who's mostly absent unless it's  Christmas or he wants something from DH.) I haven't posted since this time last year because, for the most part, I have remained disengaged, so my tolerance for the situation had improved.

NO family vacay with OSS this year!! (Long)

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Submitted by SMto2 on Tue, 07/04/2023 - 7:44am

I seriously cannot believe I'm writing this, but, for the first time in many years, our family vacay where we pay for, cook for, wait on, and clean up after OSS29, SDIL, and 2 SGDs DID NOT HAPPEN!  As my past blogs show, following the wise advice of many here, I've been in the process of disengaging from these slave fests for a couple years, doing less and less and letting DH do all the catering to them. The last straw for me was when my precious aunt who was like a mother to me died at the end of last year and neither OSS29 nor youngest SS27 said anything to me.

Annual family vacay update (l

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Submitted by SMto2 on Sun, 07/17/2022 - 10:18pm

I've been trying to find time to post about the annual family vacay at our lake house a couple weeks ago, but things have been so crazy busy. I started one post and it was so long I never finished. Lol. A couple interesting things. It was scheduled to be a "long weekend" of 5 days (Sat-Weds) but SS28 left on Tuesday, and his DW left on Monday, as her sister was keeping their new puppy that was not housebroken (did we allow it at our lakehouse?

So upset I’m shaking

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Submitted by SMto2 on Tue, 06/21/2022 - 10:14pm

My usually calm, cool, DH just lost it and went crazy, throwing a glass against the wall, knocking a candle holder off the wall and damaging our hard wood floor and turning over a chair in our basement, causing the seat to fly off. Why, you ask? All because I told him I was sick of SSs treating him like a piece of sh*t while exalting BM like a queen.

DH’s Thanksgiving dilemma

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Submitted by SMto2 on Sat, 11/13/2021 - 11:15pm

I've finally removed myself from the planning with SKS, and I'm happy about that! We are having Thanksgiving at our lake house this year. DH decided to invite SSs 27 and 25 and family/wives, since our lake house is nearly 2 hours' drive closer to each of them than our home. Cool. SS25 actually responded he and his DW will be there. Fantastic. SS27 responds they already have plans to eat at SDIL's BM (also a few minutes from BM and her parents/ clan) but they will try to come see us another day that weekend.

Finally as it should be

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Submitted by SMto2 on Sun, 10/17/2021 - 11:19am

When I last blogged in July after the "family vacation" at our lake house, I said we probably would not have any contact with SS27 until youngest SGD's birthday this month. Turns out not only did we not hear from him, but DH reached out to SS27 about the birthday. SGD7's birthday fell on a weekend that we were out of state due to Parent's Weekend at DS20's school. SS27 posted numerous pics on social media of her "birthday weekend" with BM, including fall festivities and her party.

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