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I know it's not their fault but I it's so painful being around my skids
SO and I were so happy when we found out I was pregnant. Sadly I miscarried last week. I've been crying nonstop, my heart is physically aching. Since the miscarriage, everytime I see my ssons, it's like rubbing salt on my wounds. I get so angry and hurt that SO was able to effortlessly have 2 children by a woman he didn't want kids with (BM got pregnant 2 months after her and SO met, they broke up, got back together right before ss4 was born, then when ss4 was 6 months, BM got pregnant w/ ss3).
I am disengaging for SO's own good and my sanity
I know that most of my vents have been about ss4 and his immature, childish behavior. But this weekend I realized that SO is responsable for at least 80% of the ssons behaviors. I've tried so many times to gently remind SO that ss4 should not be treated like he's 2, and that if he's treated like a baby, he WILL continue to act like one.
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BM would do anything to not spend time with *HER* kids
SO and BM have 5-5-2-2 schedule. off course that never worked out the way it's suppossed to because BM would find an excuse at least twice a month to not keep the ssons her whole 5 days. Last week, it was BM's turn to have the kids 5 days in a row(fri eve through weds ), off course she asked SO if he can have the kids friday through monday. Because of that we had to cancel our plans.
SO just referred to ss4 as " defiant little shit"-Yikes!
ss4 has been off the hook lately. He refuses to listen, he cries all the time, ignores you when you call him, hits ss3 and hits other kids at school when he's frustrated.
MIL stood up for me when I've been too chicken to do it myself!
Last week i wrote about my dissapointment that once again SO and I posponed our vaccation that was planned for this weekend because BM asked SO to keep the kids for 3 extra days.
Come to think of it, maybe it's okay if the skids call me "mom"
I've been with SO since ss3 was barely 1 and ss4 was 2. He has 50/50 custody although last he checked he has the boys more like 77% since BM seem to find excuses to not have them during her time.
I hate being a step parent sometimes...making sacrifices out of guilt :(
SO and I have been planning a weekend getaway since February. Due to busy work schedule and having the ssons 50% or more, we keep postponing the weekend trip. Last weekend we finally sat down and sorted out the details of the weekend getaway. I was so looking forward to it until now. SO just called to say BM emailed him saying she has a function to attend next weekend and wants us to keep the boys those 3 nights. The way SO presented was "SM, you know I love those boys and would jump at the chance to spend more time with them but I just want to check with you before I say yes to BM".
Is this "normal?" What kinds of things can you expect from a 4 year old?
When my niece was 4, she could dress herself with minimal supervision, she can play by herself for a few minutes,she picks up her toys, temper tantrums were almost nonexistent.
SO is sooooo naive and idealistic! How can I snap him out of this?
I've been with SO since ss3 was barely a year old and ss4 was about 2. While the children themselves are usually not that bad, it's BM that's causing me grief. She's a lying, manipulative, immoral, low-life bitch! Even though she cheated on SO and left him, when she found out about me, it appears that she's on a mission to break us up. SO and BM have 50/50 legally but in reality SO has the ssons more like 70%.
O/T any one ever used trundle bed? How did it work out for your kids/skids
So SS4 is growing out of his toddler bed and SO wants to get trundle bed that way ss3 can sleep there too. bunk beds are just too dangerous because both kids love to jump. I don't know anyone who has ever used trundle bed. Any suggestion/info would be helpful.
Thank you.