Since the day I met him, SS6(then 2.5 years old) and I clicked instantly. We have a close relationship, he would much rather go places with me than with DH, he loves to cuddle with me, wants me to be the one to read to him, etc... We have our moments but I can honestly say in the last 3.5 years I truly enjoy having him in my life and watching him grow.

It's also no secret that SS5 is BM's favorite. From all the stories I heard from DH, ILs, and even DH and BM's old neighbors, BM always favored SS5 over SS6. Oh all the horror stories I heard! So based on that it was no surprise that SS6 is so clingy to me.

When we told them I'm pregnant, SS6 was so happy and tells us he wants a baby sister. He always kisses my belly in the morning or at night, he would give me bites of his food and say " SM, eat it so our baby can grow", he gave me his favorite toy to save for the baby. He sings a goodnight song to the baby at night while rubbing my belly. I was/am so happy that he wants to be so involved.

In the past when he misbehaved, sometimes all it takes is a look from me and he'd stop what he's doing and apologize. But since Sunday the boy has become a freaking nightmare! When I discipline him or tell him not to do something, he starts crying and says he wants BM. That has happened almost every single day since Sunday! He refuses to do what I ask him to do, and he's defiant. I was in tears yesterday morning when I dropped him off at the daycare, he insisted that I carry his backpack, I said no, he started crying for BM, and when we go his classroom, he ran and wrapped his arms around the daycare provider's legs while screaming "I want BM, not you!".

My heart was broken. I know that at one point he will act out and be defiant or go against me while taking BM's side. I'm not naïve to think he'll always prefer me over BM but I thought that day would not come for another year or two. I told my mom and DH how hurt I was and my mother said, he's mean to me because he loves me and he's insecure about what will happen when baby's here. My mom said based on her observations, out of the 3 parents (DH, BM, and me), I'm the only one who prefers SS6 over SS5 and that he might be afraid that once baby gets here I'll do to him what BM did when SS5 was born-which was to completely ignore SS6. my mother's recommendation is to seat SS6 down, reassure him that I love him and will always love him and that we'll still have our special time even when baby's here.

For once, I sure hope my mom is right.