Hi! I have been a lurker on this site for over a year. I have never posted...well for really no reason.

I am a childless stepmom to a boy 11. I have been married to DH for 5 years together for 9.

I have a great relationship with my stepson. He is very respectful and he knows that I am his parent. We have 50/50 custody, no court orders. We do what I think is called parallel parenting. We do what we do on our weeks she does what she does on hers. This is really not a good thing, it makes it so my stepson have two totally separate lives.

Bm live 60 minutes away, stepson goes to school in our town so she has to drive him to and from. She is not happy about that and every year she says he needs to go to school wherever she happens to be because its our turn to drive him. Last year she said she would allow him to go to our school if we gave her lots of child support. they have been seperated for 10 years and no child support has ever pasted hands, she just had a baby, and she has lived 60 minutes away from the school in 3 different towns the last 4 years. We ignored her and stepson continues going to or school.

I am the main parent, I schedule the doctors app, the dentist, make sure he has clothes, I am the main contact for the school. When my stepson needs something even if its at his mom's house he will ask me for it. BM is not a terrible parent, she is just not very bright and is easily distracted. I have lots of good posts I will save for later.

I am terribly at writing so if you would like to know more, or have questions please ask.
I need lots of step mom friends.